@jimmy32716140@privateeyeruss Yeah, for the most part, it's different. Better when she has passion and desire for you... but not that big of a difference
If you do not actively choose a better way, then society, culture, and the general inertia of life will push you into a worse way. The default is distraction, not improvement.
Sometimes, you're forced into choices that seem to have two bad outcomes... but you have to make a choice nonetheless... choose the one that can change your life for the better. Fuck status quo