One of the best things you can do for yourself as a grown woman who’s driven, and super committed to building the life and career you’re proud of is decentering men because I promise you, it just saves you a whole lot of stress and headache.
And in case you’ve been wondering how exactly to go about doing that, I’ve got you:
A man who has zero intention of cheating has no emotional reaction to “I cheat back” from women.
The statement is irrelevant to his life. It’s like telling a vegetarian “if you eat beef, I’ll eat beef too.”
He shrugs. He’s not eating beef. The threat doesn’t touch him.
He doesn’t sit down to write five paragraphs explaining why the statement is unfair, why women shouldn’t say it, why it reveals her character, why bride price changes the equation. He just keeps living his vegetarian life.
But the moment a man writes paragraphs defending his right to not be threatened with “I cheat back,” he has shown Twitter that the threat actually lands somewhere in him.
It touched something.
If it didn���t apply to him, it wouldn’t sting. The sting itself is the confession.
A man with nothing to hide says “that doesn’t concern me, I’m not cheating” and moves on. A man with something to hide writes a manifesto about virginity, bride price, and society. 😂
You exposed yourself by reacting. If it truly didn’t concern you, you wouldn’t have reacted at all.
The paragraphs you’re writing to defend your right to cheat without consequence turn them into paragraphs that strengthen the marriage instead.
Yagazie!
I don't know who needs to hear this, but GET UP. Ask God to breathe His spirit back into you. You've been lying dormant for far too long. Ask Him to restore your creativity, your purpose, your joy, your love, your health, and your sound mind. You've slept long enough in depression, anxiety, overthinking, bitterness, loneliness, grief, brokenness, financial stress, abandonment wounds, relationship trauma, and destructive habits. Today is the last day. GET UP! Get up for your future self. Get up for your kids. Get up for the dreams God placed inside you. Get up and take your life back.
@omooba___ My mum is definitely the dramatic mum, then switches midway to nonchalant. When you come home that way, she will give you the SU mum's attitude🤣
i realized that a lot of adults are healing their inner child and that's one of the reasons why i don't make fun of people who have "childish" hobbies. Some people didn't get to have a childhood until they became adults.
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Girl to girl:
May you win, may you glow, may you heal. May you succeed and thrive in your career, may that degree work in your favour, may your dream love find you, may your skin clear, and may your health be strong. May you buy that car, own that house, grow your business, and move forward without struggle. May every beautiful, good thing you desire come to manifest.