Everyone wants a "good woman" until that good woman expects you to be a good man. Most men can't handle this and end up RUNNING to a woman who has no EXPECTATIONS and lets them do whatever they want.
stop sending long paragraphs & messages explaining how you feel, just don't say anything. i've learned that it doesn't matter what you say, if they don't care they just don't and nothing you say will change that. keep your guard up. don't waste your time and energy.
Best dating advice I ever got from my mom was:
The signs you ignore in the beginning just end up being the reason you leave later. You know right away who's good and bad for you. Don't ignore that.
“When you start feeling like you have to prove yourself to them, you’ve already lost them. And you’re losing yourself too.” You won’t have to PROVE yourself to someone that genuinely values you. You abandon yourself with every step you take towards someone backing away from you.
I confuse ppl. I have a happy personality and a sad soul. I’m bold but shy. I love deeply, but sometimes feel heartless. I’m healing and hurting at the same time. I’m dedicated to growth, but I self sabotage. I’m trying to find peace within a lifetime of contradictions.
Losing yourself is WAY worse than “losing” someone else. Remember that when you find yourself clinging to a connection that makes you doubt your worth, feel ashamed and question things about yourself that you never questioned before. ALWAYS choose losing them over losing YOU.
It's SAD how you really can't address things as adults. Misunderstandings, things that bother you or hurt you we can't talk about it without cutting each other off, raising voices, disrespecting each other. We really losing family, friends, & relationships over communication…
Dating someone who sees you, hears you, understands you, appreciates you, supports you, speaks your love language, and loves you on the days you feel insecure and unlovable >>>
You deserve a calm love with someone who's your safe space, your best friend, and brings peace to your soul during stressful situations. Someone being gentle with you is one of the most beautiful forms of love.