My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
It’s more of a temperament trait.
for melancholics, withdrawal comes from hurt. they feel rejection or disrespect so deeply that silence feels safer than risking another wound.
for phlegmatics, withdrawal comes from overwhelm. they hate conflict or constant demands, so disappearing feels more peaceful than engaging.
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it's unfair how people who traumatize you get to move on and progress with their life so casually and carefree while you're healing and relearning all the basics just to feel human again
gotta love when people do something you wanted to do with them with someone else instead
especially after they said they didn't want to do it in general