Been a while folks since a posted!
Taking a leap and starting something new. Play, learning and a little bit of magic. Follow along! Currently just on fbโฆ
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You are not going to solve the behaviour of our young people by punishing them into a better way of being.This will only exacerbate their inner word. If we can be curious about their behaviour,we can help them deactivate these defensive manoeuvres that ensure their survival. ๐ง ๐ฑ
As some of us move into our final week.A timely reminder when our young people return, consider that some of them may hv had challenging summer breaks.Don't make them rehash by asking"how was your break"Instead,just tell them you missed them and you're happy to see them again๐ง ๐ฑ
No matter how many times I see and read this. It still it hits me hard. We are all so often caught up in our own stress forgetting the stress our little people already feel.
Stop for a minute. ๐
Sunday morning and no, am not working ๐๐ Left over cereals, pasta, sticks and stones. Doesnโt have to cost a fortune to keep our children amused.
Connection before correction!
Connection & Co-regulation can take time to rewire the brain & regulate the nervous system in young people impacted by developmental trauma.
Regulate -Repetition.
Relate - Repetition.
Connect-Repetition.
Reaaon-Repetition.
Reflect-Repetition๐ง ๐ฑ
Last week the children asked for a fire ๐ฅ so we got wrapped up and after talking about fires safety and learning some first aid the children enjoyed making Sโmores. #wlelc,
As I always say to my pupils."I can't fix things,but what I can do is try to make things better."
I'll give you the tools and techniques,pick you up when things go wrong & put you back on the horse again. But you also have to be the biggest participant in your own process.๐ง ๐ฑ
Always, always, always look beneath the behaviour of our young people and understand, what are they trying to tell us?. What are the issues we need to resolve that will help them. Remember, this behaviour might be to do with their own internal struggle.๐ง ๐ฑ
Absolutely love this. This is why itโs so crucial we know all our little young people. Snap shots of them is not enough. We really need to take the time to build that connection.
When working with our most traumatised young people,firstly, we need connection before correction. Make time for relationships. Make space for big emotions. Understand and empathise with children that their behaviour is expressing a need. It's the language of an unmet need. ๐ง ๐ฑ