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He has no obligation to spend on you till you become legally married to whatever he does now is a voluntary act.

He didn't wrong you in any way, supporting your business without being your husband yet shows he'll be supportive.
Think positive of him, because he hasno obligation to give you money yet, till you become legally married.

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"In marriage one feels unparalleled joy. In marriage there is a special type of mercy that you won’t find elsewhere."

- Shaykh as-Sa'dee Rahimahullaah Tayseer p.639)

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Never marry out of pity.

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Virginity is not peculiar to sisters alone!
Brothers keep your VIRGINITY for your wife!!

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Tahajjud changes everything. If you are going through a hard time, if your heart doesn't feel at peace, or if you desperately want something to happen, start praying tahajjud and you will see miracles happening in your life.

The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said, “The closest that a servant comes to his Lord is during the last part of the night, so if you can be among those who remember Allah at that time, then do so.” (Tirmidhi)

And remember Allah's words: “And from [part of] the night, pray with it as additional [worship] for you; it is expected that your Lord will resurrect you to a praised station.” (Qur’an 17:79)

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Do istikhara before you get emotionally attached to someone you’re not married to.

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If a woman has a negative perception of men, my brother don't marry her. You can't change that mindset irrespective of what you do. You will only add to the number in her head.
Don't be a hero when picking a wife. Pick a woman who is least likely to give you headaches. Don't chase love like some women over something as delicate as marriage. Use your head. Be intentional and selfish when picking a wife. You will be doing a lot of sacrifice and selflessness in the marriage so you can't afford to pick the wrong woman for that. It will be hellish!
Let the new world label you with all the words in the dictionary, my brother, choose a woman that is most likely to serve your interest. Then treat her right and give her your all. Treat her like a Queen, but don't forget that Queens serve the interest of Kings. Don't let anyone trick you into subservience with the rhetoric that you need to be a different man from the lots of bad men around. You really do need to be a good man who treats women right, but this masculine goodness isn't defined solely by the desires of women. Don't let anyone get in your head with all these rhetorics when getting a wife. It is very important.
No marry anyhow woman O, if not you go see shege! "I love you, I love you" no go pass one year before e become meaningless. Shine your eye! Let the world drown in its new found madness while you stay wise. Marriage is not a rescue mission. Leave bitter people alone.
Abu Imrān

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‘Marry your daughter to a man who fears Allah; he will be kind if he loves her and will not oppress her when he is angry with her. ‘

[Kitaab Uyoon Al Akhbar 3/308]

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Four females occupy a man’s heart: his mother, his wife, his sister and his daughter.

As for the mother; Allaah’s pleasure lies in her pleasure.

As for the sister; kindness to her is a source of blessings.

As for the wife; honouring her is an obligation enjoined by the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم).

As for the daughter; giving her good upbringing and treating her compassionately are key to Paradise.

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"I'm too busy.." is a myth, it's more about priorities. People create time for things and people who matter most to them.

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You'll end up really disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you.

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Don't joke with doing istishara (thorough background check on your prospective spouse) it's very important, you shouldn't joke with istikharah (seeking Allaah's guidance on life decisions) as it's paramount.

Islaam have solution to every problem, the implementation is up to us.

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Important tips about joining Salāt:

1. If you enter the masjid and found an individual praying:

a. Do not ask him what Salāt he's praying (You can join anyone in Salāt whether or not he's praying the same Salāt you intend to pray).

b. Stand next to him to his right.

c. You don't need to do iqāmah, just say your Allāhu Akbar.

2. If you enter the masjid and found 2 persons praying:

a. Do not push or pull anyone, just stand next to the man to Imām's right. The row will arrange itself and take proper shape (either the Imām takes a few steps forward, or the one praying with him takes a few steps backward together with you).

3. If two or more of you enter the masjid and found a person praying:

a. Do not touch him to notify him of your presence

b. Form a row behind him and make your takbīrat loud enough for him to know

4. If you enter the masjid and found the individual or congregation on the final tashahhud

a. Join immediately and make the tashahhud with them.

b. After their taslīm, rise to complete your Salāt individually, or, more preferably, start your own Jamā'ah with a fresh iqāmah.

5. If you enter the masjid and found someone who rises to complete his Salāt after the Imām's taslīm, join him for another congregation (my preferred position among the two views held by scholars).

I hope this helps.

Sanusi Lafiagi

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Dear Muslims, GAMBLING IS HARAM, in any form it appears. It has many forms but an example of the one that prompted this post is betting on the odds of a team winning or losing a gane of football, as well as the odds of an event happening in a match such as a team winning or losing by a particular streak/number of goals, conceding a corner kick, a player being substituted etc.

A financial investment where the ONLY determinant of your success or loss is chance/odds is gambling. Any business that has these features is gambling:

●Every party to it must stake their possession.
●Gain and loss of this stake depends primarily on an uncertain event.
●One party's gain necessarily comes from the other party's loss.
●No real productive activity or value creation occurs.
● Irrespective of whatever effort that goes into it, the uncertainty of the chance itself is what people are paying for.

Like Allāh categorically says, "stay away from it if you want to be successful", people have come to me telling me they have lost everything they ever acquired to gambling! For every one person that gains from gambling, there will have been a thousand others that lose to it, and even the one that gained is highly likely to join the number of losers very soon.

Do not joke with something that can physically and spiritually destroy you!

GAMBLING IS HARAM!

{ يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓاْ إِنَّمَا ٱلۡخَمۡرُ وَٱلۡمَيۡسِرُ وَٱلۡأَنصَابُ وَٱلۡأَزۡلَٰمُ رِجۡسٞ مِ��ن�� عَمَلِ ٱلشَّيۡطَٰنِ فَٱجۡتَنِبُوهُ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُفۡلِحُونَ }
[Surah Al-Māʾidah: 90]

O you who have believed, indeed, intoxicants, gambling, [sacrificing on] stone alters [to other than Allāh], and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful.

When you see some people nearly cry over a football game loss today, it is hardly about any passion for the round leather game but the losses incurred from the bets they staked.

Abu Imrān

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Verify your husband's source of income from time to time..

There are so many shady virtual income streams disguised as "tech" these days,

So shine your eyes and beware of a sudden unexplainable increase in standard of living until your husband proves it legitimately.

That your husband told you he was a civil servant as at 10 years ago when he married you, doesn't mean you shouldn't bother asking anymore.

If he claims to have gotten a promotion, let him show you the official letter to that effect. Admonish him if you find him tempted by Haram money making schemes.

Keep asking, especially when you observe an increase in his spending and acquisition.

When he buys something outrageously expensive, don't just celebrate it, ask him about the source of the money.

You are not doubting him, you are just being careful, because you'll be questioned about your means of sustenance from him.

Many men, out of societal pressure and now into yahoo yahoo, because everyone wants to make it big suddenly.

So if your husband tells you one day that he is into tech, ask him for a comprehensive explanation and even a physical confirmation.

If he says "you won't understand", tell him "just show me how it works".

If the "tech" he is into is legit and Halal, it shouldn't be difficult to show you, but if it's something ambiguous or shady, he definitely would want to hide the skeleton in his cupboard.

For some women out there, so long as they are living their dreams, they don't care how their husband earns it.

They are only concerned about the luxurious life and the lavish life style,

It is not only your husband that will be questioned or punished, you will too. So don't be heedless !!!

Aboo Banaat

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### Your Wife Is Your Playmate

#### 22 Things You Should Do With Your Wife

1. Call her sweet nicknames (the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, used to call Aisha "Aish").

2. Play with her in any halal game (the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, used to race with Aisha), and remember that Allah loves it when a husband engages in playful activities with his wife.

3. Treat her kindly and offer her gestures that will soften her heart toward you (this is a warning from the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, in his last sermon at Arafat).

4. Buy her gifts sometimes, even if they are small, like toffee (women appreciate being treated with affection).

5. Never have intercourse with her without first engaging in romantic gestures, like kisses, and always ensure she is satisfied (this is recommended by the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him).

6. Help her with domestic activities, such as cooking, washing, and tidying up the room, whenever you can (this is Sunnah).

7. Honor her parents and occasionally buy them gifts.

8. Appreciate the good things she does for you and consistently thank her for them. Allah says, "He who does not thank people does not thank Me."

9. Express how much she means to you, how much you love her, and how lucky you feel to have her.

10. Occasionally carry her to bed like a baby.

11. Before criticizing her, praise her first.

12. Make yourself attractive to her by maintaining good hygiene (both your mouth and body; this is Sunnah).

13. Spend quality time chatting with her when you're together.

14. Call her during the day to say, "I miss you" or "I love you" when you're at work.

15. Engage in activities together, such as cooking, eating, bathing, or reading the Quran.

16. Do not reveal her faults in front of others.

17. Teach her about the Deen (religion); help her learn what she may not know and encourage her in her religious practice.

18. Avoid hitting, beating, or harming her (this is not in line with Islamic teachings).

19. Encourage her to wear the hijab (it is compulsory), pray five times a day at the prescribed times, and fast during Ramadan.

20. Thank Allah for the gift of your wife.

21. Always remember her in your dua (prayers).

22. Be the path she will take to Jannah (Paradise).

May Allah, the Most Loving, bless all our marriages. Ameen.

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I usually have a theory that unless for a wealthy man, if the wife of a man committed to providing for his home earns an income, she will likely eventually have more money in her bank account than he does because while he spends nearly all he earns for the household, hers is just there to do with as she pleases. Here are a few points to consider:

●That the picture painted above doesn't necessarily imply the wife will appear richer. In fact there are many such instances in the environment but the beautiful synergy between the couples makes it hard to tell. When a man spends upon his family Allāh blesses the little he earns and it will do great things that will surprise even him. In any case, who cares? The duty of provision is not a function of the woman's wealth afterall.

●Part of the training men need is to be completely uninterested in whatever is in the hands of their wife. Once your mind is so trained, what she earns will be inconsequential to you.

●I have heard that there are men that are scared of their wife becoming rich or earning more than they do. As ridiculous as this sounds, I do not think it is entirely untrue, and I think it is likely one of two things:

1. The man uses his position of providing for the house as a tool for subjugation. He belittles, disparages and ridicules her because he provides for her so he fears that if she finds a means to provide for herself he will lose that grip on his manipulative tool. Her remaining poor is the only way he can keep her subservient. This is not a honourable way to live with women.

2. That the woman has already demonstrated tendencies to be difficult, unruly, disrespectful and recalcitrant and his fear is that the wealth will only make worse what is already bad. As for me, a woman I fear her access to wealth will make more difficult, I will rather not live with, because I know I can not stop what has been written for her of rizq. So that wealth will come if it has been written. This point only shows that the fear of the man is germane and one that seldom makes it to the public in such accusations.

People will attempt to argue on opposite sides depending on whichever favours their gender but I believe both points are just as bad. Men should live honourably with their wives and women should live with their husbands in a way that shows willingness to obey and respect him.

Once a man takes his eyes away from whatever is in the hands of his wife he saves himself from a lot of ridicule. You are indifferent to how much she earns so find no need to even ask. You do not seek to unnecessarily interfere in her financial matters beyond what is due upon you, such as ensuring she earns halal and spends on halal, or when she willingly places it in your trust. As for insisting on knowing how much she earns, how much she sends to her parents and siblings and the likes, all these weaken a man before his wife. It weakens your resolve to provide for your home because your heart can't get over the thought that she has some money with her which you can find a way to mischievously force her hands to spend in the house.

For a woman to know her husband has no need or inclination for whatever is in her posession of wealth breeds respect, and one of the ways by which a man gets the complete surrender of his wife to him. There is a lot of power in spending, which is why when Allāh says men are the maintainers and protectors of women, He said "...and because of what they spend of their wealth".

Finally, my posts on men providing for their homes are not oblivious of the realities of our economy, seeking to ridicule anybody or any statusquo used for surviving the current hardship in the country. My primary motive is to work on people's mindset. Even if you have been forced by condition to accept support from your wife, never live too long in the abnormal to begin to see it as a norm else you will never make any effort to change the narrative. Secondly, it goes to bachelors who are yet to be married, to ensure they do not bite more than they can chew. Always stay within your means both in selecting a spouse and in taking on responsilities. May Allāh ease our affairs.

Abu Imrān