If you want a relationship that lasts, you need more than love. You need structure, clarity, and safe agreements. Start with these:
1. You’re both on the same team. You’re never opponents. It is always both of you against the problem with the same goal of fixing it.
2. No exit threats. Never use breakup or divorce as leverage or a joke. State your needs without ultimatums.
3. You both serve each other, you both want to make each of your lives easier, not harder. You both always look for ways to do so.
4. You respect and defend each other in public. You both shut down outside disrespect, even from friends or family. No belittling each other in groups. Save conflict for private space.
5. Protect your independence too. Keep your own friends, hobbies, and alone time. Share your inner world, but don’t merge every single thing you do into the other person’s life.
6. Platonic friends are normal, but be clear about boundaries. No secrecy or mixed signals. If your spouse ever feels threatened by a platonic friendship, you fix it and make it right.
7. Daily affection. Say ‘I love you’ and what you appreciate and adore about each other often. Don’t save tenderness for special occasions, make warmth a daily practice.
8. Never stop dating each other. Have a goal of finding new things to do together and new experiences to share. Enjoying each other’s company is relationship glue.
first born daughters could be extremely independent but behind the bars we’re actually are just fragile little girls who need assistance, assurance, love, and care. once we love, we love beyond compare
Sometimes I look at my life and just laugh because… how did we get here? 😭 One minute I’m planning my whole future in my head, the next minute life is looking at me like, “Calm down abeg, let’s start with surviving today first.”
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that adulthood is not by age. It’s by the number of times you’ve stood up after life showed you premium shege and you still said, “We move.” 😂
The crazy part? Even with all the chaos, you’re growing. You’re learning to mind your business. You’re learning who deserves your energy and who doesn’t. You’re learning that not every fight needs your response, sometimes silence is the biggest clapback.
And let’s not lie, God has been styling us quietly. Half the time we survive things we didn’t even pray about properly. He just carries us like, “My child, shift let Me handle it.” 😭
Over here, We don’t give up. No matter how tough it gets, we go still package ourselves, drop one small joke, eat good food, and show up again tomorrow like champions.
So if life is confusing you right now, don’t stress too much. We’re all in the same boat. Some of us are paddling, some are shouting for help, and some are just vibing at the back. But we’ll all reach where we’re going, one way or the other.
Just keep going. Your story never finish.
God is not Dead. He is alive.
He is still working wonders in the lives of men.
It might look delayed, but don't give up.
God is the surest plug. Hold onto him.