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Hawker Cadet @HawkerCadet

3 days ago

Fuck yes. Hes such a good boy

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TallGuy4U

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about 1 month ago

I'm mean 😈

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Hawker Cadet @HawkerCadet

3 days ago

I need a go at you

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TallGuy4U

@Tall_Guy4U

almost 3 years ago

I wanted to share a few thoughts on BDSM safety. Some of this advice may seem obvious, but I get DMs from many newbies whom I suspect may benefit. Please comment below with any important additions. 1. Be careful with standing or suspension bondage. Blood pooling in the legs while standing (or compression from a suspension harness) may result in the sub passing out. You must be prepared for this possibility. Obviously, never leave a sub alone while in standing/suspension bondage, and understand these scenes may have limited durations. I typically avoid standing bondage as a Dom or sub for these reasons. 2. Never leave a gagged or hooded sub alone. The particular importance of this rule depends on the gag or hood. For tape gags, for instance, a concern I have is the sub's nose becoming stuffy and inhibiting breathing during a scene. For certain hoods, a concern I have is the shifting of a strap, grommet, or straw so as to inhibit breathing. 3. Have safety scissors/shears for rope bondage and tape mummification. Scenarios may arise where you need to extricate your sub from bondage quickly. 4. As a Dom, understand possible circulation or nerve compression issues. We all want the bondage to be tight. But bondage that is too tight may cut off blood circulation to an extremity or even result in nerve damage. This is particularly an issue with rope bondage, I understand. I view this risk as a function of tightness, duration, and width of a restraint. E.g., if the bondage is especially tight, you may need to reduce the duration of that particular position. And wider straps are less risky than thinner ropes. Using multiple positions during a scene (which I think is more fun) helps to reduce this risk. 5. Discuss safe words. A common scheme is "yellow" for "slow down" and "red" for "please end the scene immediately." When someone is gagged, three successive grunts may mean "red." 6. Be mindful of the sub's joints and vertebrae. I've been in a few scenes where the Dom put all his weight on my knees or elbows for some inexplicable reason, so I'm including that here. 7. Understand what breath play is not. Newbies sometimes think I'm making my breath-play subs pass out. That is absolutely not the case. I'm simply cutting off air or allowing rebreathing for limited durations (usually 30-60 seconds) to induce a horny effect. Furthermore, I take breaks between controlling my sub's breathing to ensure the sub has time to adequately reoxygenate. At the very most (and only for more experienced players), I will allow the sub to "panic" for a very brief moment before restoring airflow. 8. Never combine Viagra and poppers. As you may know, the combination may induce a fatal drop in blood pressure. 9. Understand your responsibility as a Dom. I think domming is all about listening. Closely monitor your sub's reactions and use your reasoned judgment to adjust your approach as necessary. The asymmetric power exchange is extremely horny, but it also requires responsibility. You must be alert and ready to respond to any risks. 10. NEVER ENGAGE IN SOLO BREATH PLAY. This is undoubtedly the deadliest behavior in this space. I've seen it claim an astonishing number of mutuals during my time here. Quite frankly, given my outrageously stupid solo breath play antics as a teenager, it's miraculous I'm here today. Don't do it. It's not worth it.