The way you treat your mother as an adult, mirrors the way she treated you as a child.
People will never understand why you are the way you are with her until they understand what she was like with you first. The distance you keep now, the boundaries that look cold from the outside, the fact that you do not call, do not visit, do not perform the daughterly duties that everyone around you seems to manage without thinking twice. They see the current version. They do not see the origin of it.
I distance myself from people who create unnecessary chaos just to have a reason not to like me. Insecure people will stir up confusion, gossip, and tension because peace exposes everything they’re not. Some people don’t bond through love, they bond through negativity.✍️