There's no excuse for not having clarity in your relationship. If after 1 or 2 years you don't have solidified plans for/with who you're dating then you're both just wasting your time.
Time waits for nobody, you should know what you're looking for in a relationship is in your current partner within the first six months, you should have had all the necessary difficult conversations needed for the relationship and the following six months to a year should be for character and full compatibility vetting.
If you cannot assure yourself of the best in your relationship in as little time as possible, you're playing with your future.
When I die, everything I have should be used for the benefit of family who are alive. Sell the property if you must. Invest in your education, start a business, lock money in the money market. Live well.
I don't see how burying me in the house I built serves me when I'm dead or serves my family who are alive. I will not use my death to punish the living by reducing the value of the house I built, in the name of "bury me in my house." There are good cemetery all around. Bury me with the dead. I have lived my life, live your own life.
Live well and pass it on to the next generation. If my wife wants the kids and grand kids to be visiting her there, good. If she sells it, fine. If she passes it down to the kids, fine. If the kids sell it, fine too.
The only thing that concerns me after death is REST.
~ 20 October, Nigeria records first Ebola case.
~ 2 days later President appoints Chief of Staff, an ex convinct lawyer to head the Ebola Board. He disburses 10B naira.
~ 26 October, Ebola no longer in Nigeria.
Where is the 10B naira?
I will tell you the truth. This is coming from someone who has ACTUALLY worked in tech, still does - saw the handwriting on the wall and safely pivoted/diversified.
In 2026, tech is like forex.
Do people still make money legitimately from forex? Yes.
But the people who seem to be making the most money are the ones teaching others how to make money.
If you're paying to learn tech - even though its not wrong, you should know what you're getting into.
1. YOU ARE NOT GETTING INTERNSHIP SUPPORT. 700 participants, 2 internship spots is not internship support.
2. Go and read on the streak of layoffs happening currently across the ecosystem - and it is just starting.
Microsoft just made an announcement asking about 6000 employees to activate their buyout clause - essentially saying:
"Terminate your contract now, and we will give you an agreed sum". This is a strong indicator of more layoffs.
Entire tech workflows that would ordinarily take a month, is getting done in 1 day. There is insane saturation.
The only ones assured on returns are the ones who sold a course to you.
That you don't like what I've said, doesn't make it a lie.
This is how stupid our people are. And it’s most of the population
I am selling rice for N1,000. Rice is essential for everyone to eat. Everyone is buying the rice. Suddenly a new producer comes and says rice is now N10,000. You complain and groan. He now goes “Ok I will give you loan so that you can afford the N10,000 rice”. You now jubilate and say “This man is trying. He cooked with that loan for me to be able to afford rice”
This is the tale of NELFUND.
The reason feminists call motherhood and house work slave labor" is because feminism was invented by rich white women
Who had Black slaves. Irish maids. Nannies. Housekeepers wiping their kids' asses, cooking their food, cleaning their floors.
So in THEIR house, being a wife and mother WAS slave work. Because it was literally done by slaves. They grew up watching slaves do these jobs for them.
A normal woman never saw feeding her kids as oppression. It was duty. Love. Pride. The work that kept her family alive.
But a rich feminist? She never breastfed her own baby. Never stayed up all night with a fever.
Never scrubbed a toilet. She paid another woman to do it, then went to a salon and wrote an essay about how homemaking is oppressive.
That's the scam. They didn't liberate you from slavery. They taught you to be ASHAMED of what your mother and grandmother did with honor.
They took the most fundamental duty on earth a wife building a home, a mother raising her blood and rebranded it as degrading servant work.
Because for THEM, it always was.
You were brainwashed by rich women who never changed a diaper in their lives.
He didn't win it. He took it.
And no one else has ever taken it like that. Not even close.
2016 was not voted. It was declared.
Messi has 8 Ballon d'Ors. But show me ONE where he won a Champions League AND an international trophy in the same season AND finished as the top goals plus assists for his team and the tournament.
You cannot. Because it never happened.
2011? No international trophy.
2015? No international trophy.
2019? No Champions League, no international trophy.
2021? No Champions League, finished 5th in La Liga.
2023? No Champions League, playing in a farmers league in America.
Most of his awards were from the illusion. The illusion that he looked better than everyone, so they gave it to him. Dribbling in midfield. No trophies that matter.
2016 was different. 2016 was real football.
Champions League winner. Top scorer of the Champions League.
Euro winner. Top assister of the Euros. Top G/A for Portugal. Top G/A for Real Madrid.
He carried two teams on his back to two titles in one summer. Wolfsburg hat trick. Winning penalty in the final. Hungary to save his country. Wales to send them to the final. Crying on a stretcher and still coaching from the touchline.
That is not illusion. That is pure greatness.
So when France Football counted:
Number 1: Cristiano Ronaldo 745 points
Number 2: Lionel Messi 316 points
A margin of 429 points. The biggest ever in football history.
It was not a victory. It was a coronation. It was football correcting itself and saying:
No debate. This year, this sport, belongs to one man.
2008 was talent. But 2016? 2016 proved that talent can be gifted, but greatness is taken. And no Messi Ballon d'Or season will ever come close to it.
In some families, everyone sells what they have to support one person. Even the siblings' education are sacrificed. Those siblings would go look for any type of work to do - even the work that comes with humiliation, - and still send you money to support you.
If people are crying about black tax, you better keep quiet. You're a product of black tax yourself. Always know the family you come from. Don't let privileged people tell you about black tax.
People will tell you that "everybody will be alright even if you don't help." Na lie ooo. You would not have been alright if they didn't sacrifice for you. Ensure the people that looked after you are well looked after. Ensure your family can feed.
Some of you blew up as superstars in whatever field you delved into. You're the light in your family. Accept your reality. Money eaten alone is not sweet.
This is why men make yall baby mamas.
She had time for TikTok but he can't have 10 minutes for a game?
This is why men are tired.
SHE DOES NOT NEED HIM. That's why he is playing video game.
If she needed him, she would say "babe come hold the baby."
She didn't. She wanted content.
Is he supposed to stand behind her like a clingy security guard? Staring at her while she holds the baby so strangers on the internet will say he is a good father?
If he stands there doing nothing, they will still say "why is he just standing there? Why is he not helping?"
If he goes to work, they say "he is never home."
If he stays home and plays a game for 10 minutes while the baby is calm and safe with its mother, they say "he is useless."
The truth is simple:
A MAN IS NOT ALLOWED TO REST.
If the baby needed him, he would be there.
The baby did NOT need him.
The mother had the baby.
The baby was fine.
So he took some me-time.
That's what a normal family does.
One parent holds the baby, the other rests for a few minutes. Then you switch.
But she had to make it look like she was suffering alone so the internet would attack him.
If she was truly struggling, the phone would not be recording.
She would not have time to set up the camera, squeeze her face, and cry on cue.
* sees a burn survivor
* quickly bodyshames her
* inserts "men" to divert attention
* pretend that men are evil perverts over an idea she made up completely
Once you clock that women can be inherently evil you'd stop seeing them as innocent harmless little angels
Meet Ifeanyi.
He earns ₦600,000 monthly.
His office is far from home, so he spends ₦110,000 on transport.
He buys lunch near the office for about ₦5,000 a day. That's roughly ₦110,000 monthly over 22 working days.
He occasionally stays late and buys dinner or snacks, spending another ₦30,000 monthly.
His total work related spending is now ₦250,000.
That's more than 40% of his salary.
He hasn't paid rent, bought groceries for home, supported family or saved a naira yet.
Now imagine he finds a similar job closer to home, with a slightly lower salary of ₦550,000.
His transport drops to ₦45,000. He can prepare lunch at home three days a week, reducing his lunch spending to ₦55,000. Late night food expenses also fall.
His work related costs drop to ₦115,000.
He earns ₦50,000 less but saves ₦135,000 in monthly work related expenses.
He's financially better off by ₦85,000 every month.
That's ₦1.02 million a year, before considering the value of his extra time and reduced commuting stress.
When evaluating a job, don't look at salary alone.
Consider the cost of earning that salary.
Transport, work clothes, meals, childcare, relocation, unpaid overtime.
Your real income is not just what your employer pays you. It's also what remains after the costs of earning it.
A few controversial things I believe:
1) A grown man with a family has no business getting on a ladder to put up Christmas lights.
2) a larger vehicle is safer than a smaller vehicle. Put your family in an SUV. Period. Crash ratings are a scam.
3) Pitbulls are a public nuisance.
4) politics is a total waste of time. Putting energy towards it is inversely correlated to happiness.
5) earning money is hard. $100k a year is a lot of money. Twitter acts like it’s easy but it isn’t.
6) sports betting is a disaster for society. Quietly destroying a lot of men’s lives.
7) waiting till 35 to think about kids is a huge mistake. These folks are all going to regret not having more, earlier.
8) SEC and Big10 schools are the new Ivy League. Wealthy families want to send their kids there, not Harvard or Stanford.
9) religion is making a comeback. And the people who get serious about it end up with better lives.
10) marrying a doctor or a lawyer is high status, but low enjoyment. These folks live stressful lives with very little flexibility.
11) vaping and weed are better for your body than alcohol, but worse for your career and life. They remove ambition and energy and make you less social.
12) giving our kids 75 vaccines is going to go down in history as a net-negative on society.
13) technology won’t actually advance a lot from here. Our physical worlds will largely be the same 20 years from now.
14) driverless cars are 20 years away. Waymo won’t make it out of the major cities with 25 mile an hour speed limits.
15) Virtual reality won’t become a thing. Nobody has any use for it.
16) 99% of people have no use for AI and it has reached 90% of its potential utility. Massive waste of electricity on the whole.
17) Web3 is a joke. Crypto is worthless. Bitcoin is a fad and is 100% speculative. Massive waste of electricity. Solves a problem that doesn’t exist.
18) electric vehicles will not become mainstream. They do more harm to the environment than good. Creating them and disposing of them is an environmental catastrophe.
19) Starlink is a miracle and ads 10x more value to society than the previous 5 things on this list combined. Elon needs a Nobel prize.
20) the fed has done a great job over the last 3 years with rates.
21) nuclear power is the only way forward. Solar and wind are not sustainable and are a total waste of money. Oil and gas is the only viable solution today and America should invest heavily in more production.
22) Silicon Valley influencers and Tech titans are out of touch with the true needs of Americans. They could benefit by spending some time in a Walmart. Most people are trying to figure out how to put food on the table. They don’t need another app for their meta glasses.
What’s something you believe that isn’t a common belief? Which one am I wrong about?
You people don't remember all these disconnect when it is time to go on date. You want fine dining and call it "putting in effort" and "bare minimum" while brokeshaming men who can't afford it.
Minimum wage is N77k but fine dinning for two is above N100k.
I hope everyone is kinder and reasonable going forward.
When a country is ready to progress, you'll know from the policies they begin to ship.
When people see news like this & go:
"Both can coexist".
Errm no.
Developing countries need to decide priorities & max out 100% - sometimes, that's how you breed nationalistic traits.
i don’t have money to buy 2m naira hair for anybody!!
i don’t have money to buy iphone 17pro max or 18pro for you!!
i can’t fully pay your rent!!!
i can’t be buying you skincare everytime!!
food is not the problem
going out once or twice a month is not a problem
epon is available everytime you need it
again epon is free of charge as far as you no dey stress my life
“He could have solved world hunger instead of building a flying car”
My brother in Christ,
In 2021 the UN claimed they could solve world hunger with $6 Billion.
Elon offered them the $6 Billion if they were transparent with where the funds were going.
The UN never took his offer.