JohnAbah

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[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

I've seen Rinu make this statement a couple of times and I've seen Nigerian men attack her.

Without stuttering I tell you, your disagreement with the truth doesn't stop the truth from being the truth.

There is a rape culture in Nigeria. There is a degenerate culture that commonizes sexual assaults and mimizes the concept of consent.

It is prevalent and it is sickening.

Barely 24H ago, we saw a viral video of a man who thought it was within his rights, not only to pursue a stranger in love interest, but to slap her - on rejection. That is not a situational outlier.

It is common in schools, in the markets, at workplaces. It is not always aggressive, it is sometimes passive.

This unfortunate culture is platformed culturally and religiously. It is an entire conversation that we pretend doesn't exist until your men start going abroad to properly functioning justice systems.

The potential of a society to progress lies in its ability to confront boldly, it's dirty corners and address them draconically.

When the day comes to revisit false rape allegations, we will - as it stands today, the prevalent rape and sexual assault culture prevalent in Nigeria is our joint responsibility to condemn STRONGLY.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

I did feel this way with my first daughter. I constantly posted her especially on Whatsapp and Facebook. The compliments were good, and why not, let the world see my beautiful mini me ehn. From age 3, I slowed down. She's 6 now. The videos/photos are even better but best shared within people that are closer.

Take your time, you would slow it yourself. And your Uncle, maybe he should have just minded his business, like I should too, but he meant well.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

A usually confused parent for their inability to wake up early and realize they're now a parent with huge responsibilities of grooming a child often lash out their frustrations on innocent kids when they realize they're failing in their duties and then call it discipline.

Hurting a child' skin is discipline? What is that discipline supposed to put in their head? An indifferent, nonchalant adult who would see another hurting but care less because parents/guardians thought being wicked to their wards/kids is a way to go?

#Spanking #kids #children #learning #parenting #ParentingTips

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

When you say flog/spank a child, at what intensity and frequency per punishment should it be?
What instrument should be used? Backhands, fire, knifes?

#Spanking #kids #children #learning #parenting #ParentingTips

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

I'm not sure you're following. If your child is 15 and takes someone phone, you have already failed as a parent. They started when they were 2 and took their colleagues toys but you laughed it off that they were kids. When you should have made them write it 100 times to never take another's toy and made them return it.

You start training your child from year 000.1 Your child will NEVER be 15 and take anybody's phone

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

'punishment' was in quote. It's not exactly punishment, but they would prefer to not do it. What it means, get them puzzle boards, like the one in the video (that's my daughter btw being 'punished' for screaming at her aunt), let them solve. Give them time frame. Give them sentences saying what they did wrong. Let them repeat for a number of times. It improves their writing skills, spelling abilities... Doing multiplications table. If they're to read a story, make it 3... Let them read out loud. It gradually occupies their mind.
Also, cleaning after their meal. Tyding a place they wouldn't normally do. There are always tasks in the house. Get them to do something. If they want their favorite cartoons, let it be maths olympiad. They might not do it well/like the task, but let them do it... As a form of discipline. In the long run they learn to listen to you better and it improves them academically and how they handle their environment.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@BishopPOEvang For that amount of time, wouldn't the baby grow up with lot of damages and complications to his life? A doctor should know better?

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@GodsgreatG The level of unreasonable behavior in this country is actually alarming. I'll bet they were all flogged growing up as kids and lost every sense of empathy and reasons in the process.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@highlight56l This is a click bait right? No one senseless human would allow this guy burnt to dead because of bread, yeah?

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

"trying to act woke"
My daughter is better at maths because she has to write multiplication tables many times for doing something wrong. She would clean after eating now and still goes to do her multiplication table. Double win. I give her sentences of "I will listen to mummy when she asks me to stop" to write 50 times. She's better with her handwriting and listen to mummy.

Yes, when that bully draws more he will find something more appealing to do than finding who to bully. Beating him makes it worse. You talk to him consistently. And like I said, you start early. Don't jump out at 14years old and think you can automatically change them overnight.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@Teetoh10 Oh please. I have 2 kids. And she's absolutely right.

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

"a society who teaches the opposite" what does that even mean?
It's a wicked world, teach them to identify wickedness, protect themselves in (self defense classes, sport activities to keep them agile and smart). Teach them to identify people with immoral values and avoid them but NOT you a parent being wicked to your children!

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

When you say don't spank/beat children, what people hear is "pamper" them. Make them read, make them write sentences, make them write multiplication tables many times. Make them clean. Teach them why they can't be on the TV constantly. Teach them why they have to listen to mummy when she asks them to clean the table after meal. Teach why hitting someone is not okay. Teach why they can't take things that don't belong to them. Whey they have to ask mummy before dipping their hands in the pot. Teach them why not all their requests will be granted and they can't be throwing tantrums. Take them on a walk. Talk to them. Make conversation with them. They're not for lazy parents but these things go farther effectively working on their brain and thinking than just pulling a cane that has no impact at all.

[Oluwatimileyin✨🦋 @Timmysofine]

Spanking kids is a lazy form of parenting. If you can teach a pet to behave without hitting why are you beating your kids with a belt.

[King Delmart | Lumina Minds @iAm_d3Lmart]

🚨 BREAKING: 🇳🇬 TEAM NIGERIA IS AIRBORNE TO CHINA! ✈️🇨🇳

The journey to global greatness has officially begun.

Damilola Oreofe Adeolu and the rest of Team Nigeria are on their way to Shanghai, China to represent our nation at the Spelling Bee World Cup 2026.

Every Nigerian who believes in excellence should be proud of these young champions. They carry not just our flag, but the hopes of millions of children who dare to dream.

Join me in wishing them a safe journey and resounding success.

Go for God, Dami. Go for Gold, Team Nigeria! 🇳🇬🏆

I'll be bringing you exclusive updates from their World Cup journey. Stay tuned!

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[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@real_barny @ThatPHCBoy Instead of "kneel down, close your eyes for 1 hour" let them write 100 sentences why what they did is wrong. Instead of using a cane on them, let them tidy up the environment, empty the waste. Give them a task that would impact their thinking.

[ThatPortharcourtBoy aka Nnukwu Nmanwu @ThatPHCBoy]

all the beating that nigerian parents beat their kids growing up, did it work? as a collective, do we behave like people who were well raised? this does not even require any sophisticated study, the answer is starring us in the face

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@dammiedammie35 For goodness sake, why are you parading them instead of making sure they're getting medical care, both mental and physical for the next 2months!

[JohnAbah @iLongJohn]

@codedlife2 @arojinle1 It starts from the rulling party taking a stand. Maybe the idea needs some refining, and it would when properly tabled. The problem is not questioning those intents. It's unnecessary words like: it doesn't make sense, stupid, fools... etc when countering an argument.