when someone repeats the exact behavior you already sat down and had a whole conversation about they are not forgetting. they are not struggling. they are telling you clearly that your feelings, your boundaries, and your time were never important enough to change anything for.
NEVER TRUST A MAN who gets upset over your reactions to his actions! You got mad because of what he did, and now he's mad because you reacted. Then he tries to gaslight you by saying you're always arguing or creating negativity. No, that's MANIPULATION. That's narcissistic behaviour. You don't get to hurt people and then play the VICTIM when they call you out.
This is a classic tactic, and it's toxic. He's deflecting accountability for his actions and shifting the blame onto you. He's trying to make you question your own emotions, your own sanity. But here's the thing: your feelings are valid. Your reactions are valid. If he's hurt you, it's normal to feel upset, angry, or hurt. And if he's trying to gaslight you into thinking you're overreacting or being dramatic, that's a huge red flag. Own your emotions, own your reactions, and don't let anyone make you feel guilty for feeling. You're not the one who's wrong here he's the one who messed up, and he's trying to cover it up. Call it out, and don't back down.
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You’ll forgive someone a thousand times before you admit they never deserved you—and that’s the raw truth of having a good heart. People with soft hearts often carry more than they should, believing patience will turn into change and love will turn into effort. You convince yourself they didn’t mean to hurt you, that maybe you’re overthinking, that one more chance might finally be the one that makes things right. But deep down, every time you forgive them for the same wound, you chip away a little more of yourself. You become the healer of the pain they caused, hoping your loyalty will inspire theirs—even when it never does.
Eventually, you reach a moment of clarity, the kind that feels like both heartbreak and freedom. You realize forgiveness doesn’t fix people who aren’t willing to grow, and holding on doesn’t make them value you more—it just makes them comfortable taking you for granted. And that’s when you learn the hardest lesson: having a good heart isn’t the problem, giving it to the wrong person is. The day you admit they never deserved you is the day you stop betraying yourself for the sake of someone who wouldn’t lift a finger for you. That's when you reclaim your worth—and begin healing where you once kept breaking.
When you notice you’re losing your spark, do everything you can to keep it. Once you notice you’re losing yourself, not smiling as much, maybe eating more/eating less, please take the time you need to get yourself back to normal. Wishing you all a safe return back to yourselves.