Imam Shāfi’ī رحمه الله said:
"When the people abandon you when you are in a time of distress, then know that Allāh ﷻ wants to take over your affair and [make you] suffice with Him as a guardian."
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It’s shocking how many people don’t know how to be adults. Basic hygiene, manners, cleaning up etc
A lot of men don’t grow out of being a child. Mother looks after them and then wife. They enjoy the comfort and wife continues to enable.
Your current situation, no matter how it is, why it is like that, or how it became like this, has been chosen by Allah for you. By the command of Allah, you are in your current situation, and there is Khair in it. There is nothing that would have been better than this!