You deserve a lot. Start by loving yourself, your life, admire who you are, be your own fan, your own star, and the best love you ever have. Be the sunshine of your life, be everything you want.
It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
I’m at a point in my life where I pray to keep meeting the right people. People who genuinely want the best for me, hold me in high regard, add value in my life, prioritize me and add peace to my life.
Please pray about everything ! Your mood swings, your temper, your ego, your insecurities, your mindset, your self love, your emotional state, your environment, your relationships, your lack of motivation, your lack of execution, your attraction to bad ppl ! PRAY ABOUT IT ALL !
I want to be so comfortable financially that gifting my loved ones becomes second nature.
“You passed”
Dinner’s on me.
“You bought a car?”
Let me buy you fuel
Gifting my loved ones would honestly make me so happy.
I’m so glad my family didn’t raise me to have an entitled mentality. Nobody has to help you. Nobody has to feel sorry for you. Nobody owes you anything. This is the mindset that literally carries me through life. I expect nothing from no one and I expect everything from MYSELF. I owe me. It’s not up to anybody else how my life turns out but me. Once you program your mind to think this way you are literally going to be unstoppable.
Girl to girl: study the patterns in your family. Look at what distracted, delayed, or derailed the women before you, then make intentional decisions to break those cycles.
refuse to be a victim of generational curses ❤️
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, “Never play fair in a game where others cheat.” It doesn’t mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they’ll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
And honestly? I became that girl that LOVE being alone 😭 low profile, private life, selective energy, cutting people off easily, staying out the way, and protecting my peace at ALL costs 🫶🏽 I don’t need a crowd, fake friendships, or constant validation to feel fulfilled anymore.
I canceled a date because I wasn’t feeling great.
I told him the truth. My period had started, I was exhausted, and I was in one of those moods where even putting on jeans felt unreasonable.
I assumed we’d just reschedule.
Instead, he asked if he could stop by for a minute. I said yes.
A little while later he showed up at my door with ice cream and chocolate.
He handed me the bag, gave me a hug, said he hoped I felt better soon, and then left.
That was it.
No expectation that I entertain him. No attempt to turn it into a shortened date. No “well, I’m already here, so can I come in?” He just wanted to........
Some of the meanest men are not loud. They come wrapped in manners, soft voices, and fake patience. They gaslight. They manipulate. They project. They mentally exhaust you. Pay attention to his patterns…
Women yap a lot when they really like you, and I find it so cute. When they’re with you, they just keep talking about the most random things. Then you’re there, smiling, listening, and adding to the gist to make her yap even more. And then she catches herself mid-yap and says, “Am I talking too much?”
No, my baby, you are not. You’re so cute, keep yapping, I’m your listener 😂❤️
My idea of being spoiled has nothing to do with money. It's about how you treat me, how gentle you are with me, how you prioritize me, how you speak to me, and how you show up for me. It's about how you pour into me emotionally & consistently. Anyone can spend money, that takes little to no effort. But being intentional, loving, supportive, and protective. That's truly top tier 🙂↕️
Never ignore me. You can tell me you don't want to talk. You can tell me you need space. Whatever the case may be. Radio silence is a hard limit for me. It touches a very vulnerable place in me.
A healthy relationship will show you that there's no such thing as "this is who I am, accept it or walk away." When you truly love a person, you address those negative or toxic habits and you learn to communicate, you listen to each other's feelings, thoughts and emotions. Being with the right person makes you want to be a better you.
I have a friend who disappeared from the world for a while not out of anger, but alignment.
She started praying differently, listening differently, moving differently. And the craziest part? The blessings met her in the quiet. She got a promotion she didn’t even apply for, healed from a heartbreak she never spoke about, and became the version of herself she used to only dream of. When God tells you to BE STILL, it’s because He’s about to shift everything.
The problem is that people want already 'ready' partners, financially, emotionally spiritually. Love is messy, real r/shps are messy cz humans are messy & imperfect. Be willing to grow, learn to forgive, to say sorry (& no I'm not saying be disrespected & stay)
Let’s normalise being overly obsessed with your partner; loving them out loud, be extra, care too much, text first, miss them deeply, notice the tiny things and hold them close. Let love be tender and consuming in the best way, the kind that feels safe and warm and intentional. Let devotion be gentle, affection be obvious and joy be shared freely. Be in love on purpose, with your whole heart and never act like that’s something to tone down.
Bafazi, the bad news is, people are not sympathetic to people who don’t love themselves. People will take advantage of people who don’t love themselves. Most importantly, they will reinforce the belief that you aren’t worthy of love. Love yourself.