Colesbo

Girls kept telling me how pretty my hair was so much I just turned into a girl. • Trans woman (she/her)

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

Saw this movie at a theater in Utah and they replaced all the sex scenes with psychedelic foot rubbing scenes

[luz @vnbvrnt]

so there’s this yorgos lanthimos movie starring rachel weisz emma stone and olivia colman

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

Morrissey sounds like the most obnoxious post-ironic pansexual guy you could ever imagine decided to record an indie rock album after only ever listening to 40s era crooners

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@_CANT0R_ In this context it means emotionally unsafe, not in literal physical danger. An emotionally unsafe person is basically someone who freely says things that makes other people feel like shit about themselves, and they don’t care that they have that effect

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

Jim Caviezel’s secret burner account got mad I said he wasn’t other-worldly handsome

Sorry Mr. Caviezel, love you in Person of Interest 🫡

[ᴇ-ʀʀᴇʟᴇᴠᴀɴᴛ @enzosprite]

@Irisligr That’s cause it’s true. Chicks all over the world love him. Fans who’ve met him in real life say he’s even handsomer in person. Jonah Nolan and Greg Plageman both said he’s incredibly good looking.

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

But sometimes this wraps back around to being hilarious, like how everybody on Person of Interest kept insisting Jim Caviezel was one of the handsomest men they’d ever seen

[ROBIN 🌻 RWBY ERA @SUNNYCXMB]

when a male character’s sexiness is manufactured and disingenuous I get grossed out and hate him

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@Tronicai @gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ A lot of it comes from my dad having these same issues not only undiagnosed but with stubborn denial that he could ever be wrong. My frustrations with his issues made me accidentally develop lots of healthy autism and OCD coping mechanisms very young through the power of spite 💪

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@Tronicai @gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ The pain of being so aggressively misunderstood made
understanding other people my primary life-long hyper-fixation starting in Kindergarten. I’ve had enough practice at this point to be good at it. Helping people that haven’t gained that skill makes me feel more fulfilled 🩶🩷

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ I’ve actually come around on this. If you truly feel this way, then dont converse. You’re bad for other people. If you cannot fathom why you would talk to someone about anything other than your interests, then forming any relationship with anyone is making that persons life worse

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ It makes people feel like you see them more as Wikipedia pages than as living breathing and feeling human beings

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ Because otherwise it makes people feel like conversations are transactions and they want to feel like they’re forming actual human relationships. Relationships, in the broadest sense of the term, require this, as unpleasant and counterintuitive as it may seem to some people

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @HochuKushats @bo_austin_ They hope that the other person fees the same. And when it’s made clear that that person doesn’t feel the same, it feels painful

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @HochuKushats @bo_austin_ Most people aren’t seeing it that way. They don’t feel that pain you’re feeling here. They know that it feels painful when someone ignores them and makes them feel like they don’t care to listen, and so listening to other people when they need it feels kind, it feels warm

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @p1huycke @NewTypo_ @bo_austin_ The hard reality here is, though you’re completely within rights to behave like this, the cause and effect will be that people don’t like you. If you’re fine with that then everything’s okay. If you’re not, then you’re singular only option is to get over it

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ A lot of people do want you to feign interest though! Go back to the beginning of the thread and it’s about “being good at socializing”, being good at socializing includes understanding that you can’t ignore what people actually feel in favor of what makes more sense

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@Icez790 @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Yeah I guess it just seems to me that so many of the issues get fixed by being open to being wrong and listening to other people, which seems like such a basic necessity of being an adult. But I’m good at these things so it’s hard to understand how it feels when you’re not

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ You’ll likely never have a meaningful relationship be it platonic romantic or anything you could define as a relationship with this mindset. If you’re okay being that lonely your entire life, then you’re fine. If you want anyone at all to ever meaningfully like you, change.

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ You realize the “someone” people feel on constant edge around in this scenario is you, right? Your accidentally arguing for people to avoid you and not socialize with you

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Think of listening to something boring and trying to occasionally engage as like a contract that makes people feel safe. Breaking that contract makes them feel on constant edge around you, like walking on eggshells

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Thinking conversation that’s not meaningful is inherently a waste of someone’s time is the mistake here. Your framing will make people feel like you’re calling them and their lives ‘frivolous’ if your interests don’t align

[Colesbo @Irisligr]

@floatovertrees @harmonycobelvig @mythicalmarxism @bo_austin_ People like talking. If you think all conversation needs to be meaningful at all times people will feel hurt, it’s unavoidable. If you try to only ever talk exclusively about your interests and shut down anything else people will find you selfish and rude, and they’ll be right