Imagine this:
Youโre rowing across a river.
Then suddenly, another boat crashes into you.
You get angry instantly. Your heart rate spikes.
Youโre ready to shout:
"HOW CAN SOMEONE BE SO CARELESS?"
"WHAT'S WRONG WITH THEM?"
Youโre already blaming.
But then you look closerโฆThe boat is empty.
And just like that...
You reaction wasnโt about the event.
It was about the meaning you gave to it.
Psychology calls this:
Attribution.
Your brain automatically assigns intent:
โThey disrespected me.โ
โThey did it on purposeโ
Theyโre trying to hurt me.โ
But most of the time, the story isnโt trueโฆ
What if the โother boatโ is:
- Stressed
- Overwhelmed
- Distracted
Or simplyโฆdealing with their own pan.
Theyโre not trying to attack you.
Theyโre just navigating their own storm.
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Poverty does not just take your money.
It takes your BELIEF that you have options.
And the moment you stop believing you have options you stop making choices.
And the moment you stop making choices someone else starts making them for you.