Marriages survived because men had the heart to endure women.
It lasted for generations because of MEN. Because of our emotional intelligence and our compassion for our wives.
Not because women were good partners. Because men learned to overlook a lot of stupid shit women do just to let peace reign.
Let's be real, women are NOT easy to live with.
They are not romantic. Their whole idea of romance is RECEIVING. What he bought for me, where he took me, what he did for me. Never what they give.
They are not funny. They are overly sensitive, they hate accountability, they hate saying sorry, they hate initiating sex with their own husbands, and they are controlling as hell. Stubborn and rebellious.
And that domestic violence you hear about in marriages? Most of it is STARTED by the wife. Pushing, slapping, throwing things, talking reckless, provoking until the man reacts. Then she wants to play victim.
Look at any relationship that doesn't have a man in it,it doesn't work.
Lesbians? Highest divorce rate. Highest abuse rate. Because there is no man there to tolerate their violence and their emotions. Two women together can't handle each other.
Female friendships? Even worse. Pure gossip, backbiting, jealousy, cutting each other off over the most childish things.
They will have 10 female friends by 2022. By 2026, only 2 are left. She has fought with ALL of them. Every single one is now an enemy.
But men are the problem.
Marriages survived because men had the heart to endure women.
It lasted for generations because of MEN. Because of our emotional intelligence and our compassion for our wives.
Not because women were good partners. Because men learned to overlook a lot of stupid shit women do just to let peace reign.
Let's be real, women are NOT easy to live with.
They are not romantic. Their whole idea of romance is RECEIVING. What he bought for me, where he took me, what he did for me. Never what they give.
They are not funny. They are overly sensitive, they hate accountability, they hate saying sorry, they hate initiating sex with their own husbands, and they are controlling as hell. Stubborn and rebellious.
And that domestic violence you hear about in marriages? Most of it is STARTED by the wife. Pushing, slapping, throwing things, talking reckless, provoking until the man reacts. Then she wants to play victim.
Look at any relationship that doesn't have a man in it,it doesn't work.
Lesbians? Highest divorce rate. Highest abuse rate. Because there is no man there to tolerate their violence and their emotions. Two women together can't handle each other.
Female friendships? Even worse. Pure gossip, backbiting, jealousy, cutting each other off over the most childish things.
They will have 10 female friends by 2022. By 2026, only 2 are left. She has fought with ALL of them. Every single one is now an enemy.
But men are the problem.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you'll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop, heal from what broke you, live in your own space, reconnect with your discipline, and learn to love yourself again. It's very important that you see that journey through.
Padah tinggal sebumbung dengan boyfriend biawak hidup dekat KL! Sekarang dah mengandung 3 bulan, boyfriend pula lari tinggalkan pulak.
Mak sanggup turun dari kampung sebab anak dah hutang keliling pinggang. Naya betul hidup 😅
I pernah ada dalam situasi si suami ni. Sebenarnya ini bukan isu “incompetent” atau lembab, tapi ini realiti kesan “micromanaging” dan “learned helplessness”. Bila setiap tindakan, keputusan, dan cara suami asyik dikritik dan disalahkan, dia akan automatik jadi takut nak bertindak sendiri. Dia tanya soalan remeh macam tu sekadar "defense mechanism" nak pastikan dia tak diserang balik.
Boleh jadi sebelum ni dia pernah tolong buang, tapi kena bebel sebab tak ikut standard atau timing isteri. Kontranya dekat sini, you nak suami yang berdikari dan ada leadership, tapi you layan dia macam budak budak yang tak reti buat keputusan. Bila tak kena cara dan tekak sendiri, terus cop incompetent. Hubungan takkan sihat kalau sebelah pihak asyik cari salah.
Menuntut suami untuk proaktif, tapi pada masa sama sekat autonomi dia untuk buat kerja ikut cara dia sendiri. Bila tak memenuhi piawaian tekak kita, terus label lembab. Ini bukan salah suami je, ini toxic trait isteri yang suka kontrol semua benda.
Mana boleh macamtu lmao
Antara kesilapan besar isteri is micro-managing suami. Suami buat itu tak kena, buat ini tak kena, tak habis-habis kena marah.
Buat kena marah, tak buat kena marah. Semua tak kena.
The husband literally said “bukan kalau belum ikat lagi means belum boleh buang ke?”
Maksudnya isteri dia pernah tegur/marah bila sampah belum diikat, jangan buang. How is he incompetent? Dia cuma buat benda yang taknak trigger kemarahan isteri lah sekali kena marah juga.
Suami mandi lama pun jadi masalah.