I’ve always wondered why majority of the people I’ve met in my adult life have been avoidant women, couldn’t quite pin point what was attracting them to me but the moment I realized, everything changed
I realized why I kept attracting them is cos I gave without asking for anything in return. I meet someone and once I feel a little chemistry, I switch to caretaker mode, I validate them, listen to them, go out of my way to be there for them, create safety for them to open up and they do
But I do this not minding if they’re doing same for me, and honestly that’s one of the fastest ways to build exhaustion and resentment. If you keep giving, hoping they’ll give back, you’re wasting your time. Nobody recieved free money and goes “oh maybe I need to give him too” when the giver hasn’t asked for any
I’m now realizing I should have matched energy, I should have paced my emotional investment, should have given and waited to be given back cos that’s what a relationship is, reciprocal not one sided.
If you’re reading this and you can relate, stop abandoning yourself. You deserve to be listened to as well, you deserve to be validated, you deserve to have your needs met, don’t let yourself go without reciprocation. A healthy relationship is one where both people strive to be emotionally responsible for each other not one partner being responsible while feeling exploited
J’ai tellement bien dormi….
Bonjour @IbaiLlanos aujourd’hui au moins tu seras pas en train de bouffer les couilles d’un autre youtuber pour voir ton équipe de merde se faire marbrer
19H KC VS KOI
@itseroszia C est un homme simplement sain. Si il voulait quelque chose avec toi mais qu il apprend que tu es en couple, c est la meilleure decision pour lui et toi