I'll give married guys some free advice...
Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉
Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉
But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list:
Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul.
Handle the unsexy logistics.
Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her.
Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other.
Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us."
The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens.
Show up for her there.
Just saw a TikTok where a woman said “do you actually want it or do you want other people to see that you have it?” and WHEW! I feel like more ppl need to ask themselves this, because what they THINK they want, isn’t what they actually want. What they really desire is acceptance.
@idenyigabriel@instablog9ja As in, the level of idiocy in the comments section is alarming 🥲 people actually think he is referring to bank employees literally 😭
You know the type of heartbreaks that hurt the most? The ones from the people who wanted you first. Like I was minding my business and you moved heaven and earth to get my attention only to do this to me?????
Husbands doing house chores at home is not assisting the wife, You are simply doing house chores.
I mean it’s your house too, You can do house chores in the house and still be a husband/man.
“Lost one and gained two” is such an insensitive and senseless thing to say to a couple who lost their child. You make it sound like a trade-off. Like the child who died was not a full human being. Like they’re just being replaced.
Sometimes shut up man.
Men basically live their lives for others, from the moment they start walking and form words, at a tender age they're already told to look after their sisters and even give up snack and toys to make women happy, even till they become men.
The money they earn are not for themselves but for others, the moment they pause to do something small for themselves women will tag them as stingy and unloving. They love unconditionally irrespective of class, educational qualifications or financial status, but women only love them when they have money and are providers.