I finally hit send on something I’ve been sitting with for a while. It took time and courage. I had to do it from my favorite spot because I’m sentimental like that. I am grateful for the weight lifted and the journey ahead. #GratefulHeart
@bennetowuonda@TheRealWambo The dictionary and the atlas were some of my favorite reads growing up. As a result, I have a surprisingly solid knowledge of countries, capitals, and continents.
And thanks to all that time spent with the dictionary, I also have a strong attachment to proper grammar. 😂
Girl to girl: be that girl again.
Get disciplined again. Take care of yourself again. Eat better & move your body again. Oil your edges & drink your water again. Start praying & reading your Bible again. Get your money up and sleep 8 hours again. Find your spark and put yourself first.
Clarifying things so the other person doesn't overthink is also a form of emotional responsibility. Reassurance is a love language that doesn't get talked about enough.
my five love languages:
1. giving me a book.
2. taking me to a bookstore.
3. reading books next to each other.
4. leaving me alone with a book.
5. talking to me about a book.
i love speaking with people who are more intelligent in a certain field than i am. it’s just great to sit back and listen to somebody educate you on things they’re passionate about.
Do not let people gaslight you into thinking that duality does not exist. You can be grateful and annoyed. You can want more and be grateful for what you have. You can be angry and frustrated and still be grateful. A lot of religious and spiritual gaslighting out here.
Anyway, just want women around me to understand, you need to start aspiring towards financial independence with the exact same urgency society wants you to aspire towards marriage.
Underrated benefit of reading a great number & variety of books is that it will make you a more interesting person. As C. S. Lewis said, the person who doesn't read lives in a tiny world; reading lends us the perspective of a thousand lives.
Your heart is not a state secret. You are meant to declare allegiances. You are meant to have favourites. Write the letter. Miss the train. Stay up until dawn talking. You should be caught red-handed loving something, someone.
Mental decolonization is not about rejecting all Western knowledge.
It is about no longer using Western knowledge as the only lens through which you understand yourself and your world.
As someone who was pushed out of an organization because of reporting my sexual abuser, I totally emphasize with you. I am so sorry you went through this and you STILL have to go through online harassment. YOUR TRUTH MATTERS and THANK YOU for SPEAKING UP.
I was born a girl. Into a world that works tirelessly to reduce my human experience into a neat little box, defined only by its own narrow terms. A world where my safety isn’t prioritized, and when I dare to speak up, I’m reminded of that box I’m supposed to quietly and submissively retreat into. Staying quiet has always been the easy way out. No one questions your experience then, no one blames you for the anger and courage it took to speak out, no one points at your physical attributes to determine if you were ‘worth’ attracting unwarranted sexual advances.
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