As we get older, we have a social obligation to help guide and nuture the lives of younger ppl in any way possible. Idc what ppl say. You don't have to be a mentor, but you should always be mindful your status as an elder in the lives of children.
@OluwaSoLove Hi! I really appreciate your perspectives, especially since learning you’re an Aries, as a Libra. I’d like to offer that requiring someone to “act” seems like the stronger indicator of inauthenticity & inconsideration for the other. I’m curious how you calculate otherwise!
The “grooming” y’all keep speaking of starts a lot sooner than yall want to admit & it’s not just coming from these men!! It’s coming from your radio, tv’s, these corporations! Cause remember when these apps tried to eat me up when I said that majority of the music being
The “grooming” y’all keep speaking of starts a lot sooner than yall want to admit & it’s not just coming from these men!! It’s coming from your radio, tv’s, these corporations! Cause remember when these apps tried to eat me up when I said that majority of the music being
Childhood neglect is unrecognised and overlooked if it’s not in its extreme and if the relationship w your parents is still great. A parent can love you but still neglect you because neglect is simply not giving you the adequate amount of support and attention you needed in childhood. A parent that worked really hard and wasn’t around enough could’ve neglected you. A parent that is forever focused on friends or romantic relationships to the point of not having enough personal one on one time can be neglect. It’s things like not having a parent engaged in your school work or activities at school, a parent not cooking or providing regular nutritious meals, allowing you to be around everyone but them, not playing w you, not having conversations with you that are more than shallow or just telling you what to do, not doing things with you in a way that builds connection.
If you want to see who someone really is, hold them accountable, gently with love. Then watch. Avoidant ppl don’t hate confrontation, they hate reflection. They’ll twist, deflect, disappear. Emotional intelligence isn’t how deep they talk,it’s how they respond when they’re seen.
“Sitting with your feelings” means when you feel something , sadness, anger, jealousy, whatever emotion, instead of immediately distracting yourself, numbing it, or reacting, you just let yourself feel it without running from it.
You notice it, you acknowledge it, you question it, ask yourself where it’s coming from. You don’t grab your phone, pick a fight, or eat a whole bag of chips or a big bowl of ice cream to avoid it.
You just stay present with the discomfort until you understand it better. It sounds simple but most people have never done it even once.
You used to have your bet ideas in the shower, now you have a waterproof speaker. You used to get lost in thought waiting for the train, now you have a phone to fill the gap. You used to daydream on long flights, now there's a screen in your hand and on the seat in front of you. You used to think on your morning commute, now you have a podcast playing before you leave the house.
We used to stare in to the sky or into a fire and let our minds drift, now we have TVs and phone to replace that. We filled every silence and lost all of our peace, creativity and ideas that lived within that silence.
good faith critique is LOVE, not violence.
wasn’t it James Baldwin who said, “If I love you, I must make you conscious of the things you don’t see.”
critique is violence under colonialism because it threatens power structures.
Why Venus is considered in “fall” in Virgo. A level of devotion that’s so detailed and in the weeds, it can easily go unnoticed or be taken for granted. Or even seen as “boring.” There’s a level of maturity/inner development required to truly appreciate a partner with Virgo Venus
Ways to leave a legacy, without bringing children into the world:
- Make art
- Write books
- Mentor younger people
- Teach
- Bring new experiences and ideas into the collective conscience
- Invest in people’s dreams
- Be a healing/healed presence
- Pray for future generations
house cleaners are energy workers. considering them lowly is bizarre and immature. they move stagnant energy to allow for clean higher vibrational space.
I cannot emphasize this enough as a practical life skill: learn how to say no to authority figures. Learn how to tell them that nothing they can do to you will change your mind. Disappoint your parents. You have to live your own life.
Eradicating pedophilia would mean addressing all children as your child even when they aren’t yours as all children are considered oppressed & underprivileged as long as they are under age/under someone else’s care.
So all adults have a moral obligation to fend for, take care of & defend all children!
im dead serious btw. my parents saw my suicidal ideation and got me a pet that lives for 60+ years and told me i have to take care of it until it dies. and it worked.
Assata Shakur Speaks from Exile: Excerpts from an Interview by Sociologist Christian Parenti (Cuba, 1997)
Parenti: How did you arrive in Cuba?
Assata Shakur: Well, I couldn’t, you know, just write a letter and say, “Dear Fidel, I’d like to come to your country.” So I had to hoof it–come and wait for the Cubans to respond. Luckily, they had some idea who I was, they’d seen some of the briefs and U.N. petitions from when I was a political prisoner. So they were somewhat familiar with my case and they gave me the status of being a political refugee. That means I am here in exile as a political person.
Parenti: How did you feel when you got here?
Shakur: I was really overwhelmed. Even though I considered myself a socialist, I had these insane, silly notions about Cuba. I mean, I grew up in the 1950s when little kids were hiding under their desks, because “the communists were coming.” So even though I was very supportive of the revolution, I expected everyone to go around in green fatigues looking like Fidel, speaking in a very stereotypical way, “the revolution must continue, Companero. Let us triumph, Comrade.” When I got here people were just people, doing what they had where I came from. It’s a country with a strong sense of community. Unlike the U.S., folks aren’t so isolated. People are really into other people. Also, I didn’t know there were all these black people here and that there was this whole Afro-Cuban culture. My image of Cuba was Che Guevara and Fidel Castro. I hadn’t heard of Antonio Maceo (a hero of the Cuban war of independence) and other Africans who had played a role in Cuban history.The lack of brand names and consumerism also really hit me. You go into a store and there would be a bag of “rice.” It undermined what I had taken for granted in the absurd zone where people are like, “Hey, I only eat uncle so and so’s brand of rice.”
Parenti: So, how were you greeted by the Cuban state?
Shakur: They’ve treated me very well. It was different from what I expected; I thought they might be pushy. But they were more interested in what I wanted to do, in my projects. I told them that the most important things were to unite with my daughter and to write a book. They said, “What do you need to do that?” They were also interested in my vision of the struggle of African people in the United States. I was so impressed by that. Because I grew up–so to speak–in the movement dealing with white leftists who were very bossy and wanted to tell us what to do and thought they knew everything. The Cuban attitude was one of solidarity with respect. It was a profound lesson in cooperation.
Parenti: Did they introduce you to people or guide you around for a while?
Shakur: They gave me a dictionary, an apartment, took me to some historical places, and then I was pretty much on my own. My daughter came down, after prolonged harassment and being denied a passport, and she became my number one priority. We discovered Cuban schools together, we did the sixth grade together, explored parks, and the beach.
Parenti: She was taken from you at birth, right?
Shakur: Yeah. It’s not like Cuba where you get to breast feed in prison and where they work closely with the family. Some mothers in the U.S. never get to see their newborns. I was with my daughter for a week before they sent me back to prison. That was one of the most difficult periods of my life, that separation. It’s only been recently that I’ve been able to talk about it. I had to just block it out, otherwise I think I might have gone insane. In 1979, when I escaped, she was only five years old.
Parenti: You came to Cuba how soon after?
Shakur: Five years later, in 1984.