The biggest thing I've learned is that you need to find your "upstream lever." An upstream lever is one habit or change that naturally influences several other areas of your life.
MAeanwhile antis who scream pedophile about every fictional thing that they don't like cause direct harm to real victims they claim to protect. fictional character does not exist.
so, i think it's very fortunate i have no more than 30 in-world days for coen and marat to fall so ride-or-die in love with each other they're ready to defy the canon to stay together, it saves me from my ancient curse called Fifty Bajillion Words Of Slow Burn