@Matema_@Ditabe_ So, don't try to "get over" it, just take it as it comes. Whether it's a smile from a good memory or a little pain in ur heart that brings u to tears. There's no formula really.
@Matema_@Ditabe_ Grief is messy. One day you accept that they're gone, the next day you ask questions again. You miss them during hard times, and the most when u've achieved something. U wonder what they would say and wish they'd share the moment with u. Grief always reminds u of its dominance
Abusive people capture and prison you emotionally which weakens you logically. You go back because of the emotional attachment by the time you realise you're dealing with a monster it's too late.