Marriage should be a choice, not a pressure
Marriage is not for everyone, and that’s okay.
What matters most is honesty, being clear about whether you are truly ready for that level of commitment instead of forcing it to meet expectations.
Entering marriage without readiness often creates more harm than refusing it in the first place. It affects not just individuals but the quality of the relationship itself.
Being honest with yourself and others is more responsible than pretending to be prepared for something you are not.
کاغذ کی کشتی تھی، نئے دور کا پانی تھا
ہم سمجھ بیٹھے کہ ہر شخص ہی ربانی تھا
اب جو پلٹ کر دیکھا تو مٹی کے سوا کچھ نہیں
جسے ہم زندگی سمجھے، وہ فقط ایک کہانی تھا
I asked my Guru, “What is anger?”
He smiled and said, “Anger is the punishment you give yourself for someone else’s mistake.”
I said, “But they hurt me.”
My Guru replied, “Perhaps. But the event lasted a moment. Your anger keeps it alive for days, months, even years. So forgiveness is not for their peace. It is for yours.”
اصل میں آزاد انسان وہ ہے جس کو کسی چیز کا انتظار نہیں.
انتظار کسی اچھے وقت کا
کسی سے بدلے کا
بیماری سے صحت کا
تنگی سے کشادگی کا
کہیں سے ہجرت کا
وطن واپسی کا
وطن چھوڑنے کا
اور
کسی انسان کا۔
There is Khayr in everything, but only if you look with imaan. The rain doesn't ruin your plans, it gives you a chance to make more dua. You lost something beloved to you because Allah heard things you didn't hear. You can't fall asleep because Allah wants you to talk to him
No one is completely wrong. We all see things from our own lens. And that shapes what feels right to us.
Maybe that's why I've learned to leave quietly. If my existence becomes a burden for someone, I'd rather become a memory than a disturbance