Here’s a piece of unsolicited advice for Men with money entering relationships:
A lot of your relationships fail because you started with an unsustainable version of you. Sometimes when we love someone, we try to secure that love through too much effort, attention, gifts, or availability too early.
“You can kill a new plant by watering it too much.”
The problem with doing too much too early is that your initial effort becomes the standard. A relationship that starts at 100 has nowhere natural to grow.
When you give too much too early, the relationship skips the stage where you 2 gradually learn to love each other in a realistic way. Your effort becomes your identity in the relationship.
So when you reduce that effort later, it feels like less love to the other person whereas you’re just dealing with life.
When you have money, it’s tempting to do too much too early. But it’s usually a bad idea even if you can afford it.
I’ll have to agree with the fact that, fumbling some bags early in your life is a neccesary phase every guy must pass through to have depth understanding of finances, and teaches you be very strict with your finances, henceforth.