You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.
one thing people don’t wanna admit… a lot of grown adults are still mentally in high school. still gossiping, still worried about who talking to who, still needing validation from people they don’t even like. we getting older but everybody ain’t growing up