@justmyrra_ The contexts are different so you definitely misconstrued it. The person was referring to the difference between 'lie' and 'lay' in terms of position. 'Lay' requires an object, 'lie' does not.
She wanted to lie on the floor.
I lay the books down.
But you can be careful all you want, using all your strategies, lived experiences, gumption, and whatnot, and still get stabbed in the back, sometimes by yourself. This is what I theorize herein as the chary complex: a condition where you trust yourself too much to know people can not be trusted so you end up pushing good people away with your attitude, and eventually create the mirror version of you who will betray you.
I think the doxa, "be careful whom you trust" while ontologically sound, is pragmatically hollow. I risk projecting but I think it more often than not, makes us wary of all the people with good intentions who come our way. And is it okay to live life like you are always on the run? To question yourself when you are happy, even for a few seconds? We have been so conditioned to the bad and the ugly that we often ask ourselves "why me... why are they being good to me?". These questions come from a good place though, because self-interest is the basic existential imperative for everyone...not forgetting that people can be base, vile, hypocritical, scheming, and mischievous.