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#Olamidé Since 0Ten

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@Emeneks This was fun to watch.
It's so easy to point out the older millennials 😆
Odun and Mike 😁🤭

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@khykheloormuur Dear HR,

It appears that Rain is doing GRWM, and I will have to stay home.
Kindly find attached the link for your use.

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

VAGINISMUS:

THIS HAS DESTROYED MANY HOMES.

NO, SHE'S NOT PRETENDING.

READ, SHARE AND REPOST.

Dear Women and Men, come and learn...,

When the Body Says No: Vaginismus, Silence, and the Myth of a Closed Door

They come quietly, these messages, and they often begin the same way, Dear Doc, and then a confession wrapped in confusion, and sometimes shame. I married my wife as a virgin, and yet it feels like something is blocked, and I can touch her, and we can linger in foreplay, but when it is time for intercourse, the door closes. And in that sentence, a woman is almost turned into a riddle, and sometimes into a suspect. As though her body has decided to be wicked. As though pain is rebellion. As though fear is witchcraft.

But let us say this clearly, and say it gently, and say it loudly enough to undo years of silence: this is not witchcraft. She is not wicked. Her body is not conspiring against love.
This is called vaginismus, and it is far more common than we admit, and far more human than we allow.
Vaginismus is the body tightening when it should soften, and closing when it should welcome, and doing so without permission from the mind. It is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles during penetration, during sex, during examinations, sometimes even during the thought of penetration.

Many women say, my vagina is blocked or I am too small, and what they are really saying is that their body has learned fear. And this fear does not belong only to first-timers, although many first sexual experiences are marked by it. It belongs also to women who have had sex before, and to women who have known trauma, and to women whose bodies remember pain from surgery, from radiotherapy, from infections, from stories whispered by aunties about how sex is suffering and womanhood is endurance. It belongs to women who were assaulted, and to women who grew up learning that sex is danger dressed as desire.

And yes, vaginismus has broken hearts, and strained marriages, and turned bedrooms into battlegrounds of guilt and misunderstanding. But it is not a moral failure. It is not stubbornness. It is not punishment. It is the body doing what bodies do when they feel unsafe, protecting itself.

So what do we do, when the body says no?
We begin with belief, belief in the woman, and belief that healing is possible. We begin with counselling, especially when there has been sexual trauma, because the body listens closely to the mind. We seek help not from one person, but from a team, the gynaecologist, and the psychologist, and the counsellor, and the physiotherapist, and the specialist nurse, because vaginismus is not a single story and cannot be solved by a single voice. We talk about lifestyle, and hydration, and the quiet power of pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, and we talk about lubricants, yes, generously, and some that soothe pain as they ease entry. We talk about patience, and vaginal massage, and gentle exploration, sometimes guided, sometimes slow, sometimes awkward, and always kind.

We talk about foreplay, not as a prelude, but as a language of reassurance. And sometimes, when anxiety refuses to loosen its grip, we use medication to help the body learn calm again. Vaginal dilators may be used, slowly and consistently, not to force the body open, but to teach it that opening does not equal harm. Surgery, we say clearly, is rare, and only for true physical obstruction, not for fear, not for memory.
This is a big issue, yes, and it can unmake intimacy if left alone in the dark. But it is also a treatable one. Help exists. Compassion works. Conversations heal.

And so, if your body has been saying no, listen to it, not with anger, but with curiosity. Seek help. Book consultations. Treat infections. Drink water. Be patient. Be gentle. Because sometimes the door is not locked.
Sometimes, it is only afraid.

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

How some of your favourite celebrities dressed to the #AMVCA... like a few Specialties in Medicine.

1) Cardiology (heart) ...because this is the heart of the matter. Don't stop beating!

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@oneman_official @AnyanwuMalachy If that's the case, you'd have picked the one that did better.

Beauty doesn't add to your performance, the brain (intellect) does.

[Mr. FeRaN💛 @Fabulous_feran]

A lady misplaced her certificate in a bus.
Kindly retweet if this crossed your TL.
Someone that knows her might be on your TL ❤️

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

The most expensive type of woman is the one who's not going to ask you for money. She's not going to ask you to pay her bills she's not going to ask you to fund her lifestyle, she's not going to ask you to pay her rent, she's not going to ask you for money for her nails, for her hair, none of that and that is because she can do all of those things on her own. Women nowadays are more financially independent than ever before throughout history. Women who operate like this, they're looking for things that cost a lot more than money. They're looking for loyalty, they're looking for respect, they're looking for open communication, they're looking for reciprocity, they're looking for a man to match her energy to see her eye to eye and to match on her level. To a woman like that, money comes and goes and because she already has it on her own she ain't looking for that. She's looking for emotional stability. She's looking for loyalty, a masculine presence and a man who's emotionally intelligent. She is not out here looking for a provider. You think she's looking for that? She's already her own provider, and she's doing it well. So a woman like this is going to cost you a lot more than the woman who was asking you for money. She is looking for a man who matches her, not her bank account, but her standards. Her character, her vision. And her level of self-awareness.

[Walter 🇳🇬 🇵🇭 🇨🇦 @gamerwalt]

I'll give married guys some free advice...

​Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉

​Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉

​But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list:

​Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul.

​Handle the unsexy logistics.

​Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her.

​Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other.

​Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us."

​The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens.

Show up for her there.

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

I agree 👍

[Dee Macé @frmarcellinus]

I love you Onyi 💜 and I love your idea. But childbirth, I think, is not the greatest sacrifice in marriage. Neither is it the biggest offer that can be brought to the table. The biggest sacrifice is "leaving one's father and mother and cleaving to one's spouse."

I say this because, if a woman is unable to give birth to a child, does that mean she can't offer anything? The biggest sacrifice is saying "yes, I will marry you," "yes, I'll do life with you."

❤️

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@ms0nigghaz Nahhh. If you're on tiktok, you would know she hasn't even done enough. She couldn't even comment on another person's post without being insulted or cursed.

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

Nahhh. If you're on tiktok, you would know she hasn't even done enough. She couldn't even comment on another person's post without being insulted or cursed.

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@EleluAyoola And so? She suffered cyberbullying for 3 years, and she still is. She can as well get something else aside from the negatives.
Victims sell their stories to movie producers i hope you know.

[stressed @onlystresstoday]

i know it will pass, but it's heavy.

[໊ @cdoll]

this or nothing

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@_adepejuh None

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

Blistered Shishito Peppers 😆

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

Till you blink.

You're 32.

Still nothing.

[neppy @neppy]

You’re 24.

Relax.

You have time.

[Esluva 🎀 @Vesper_2005]

on twitter, you will always find someone who is tweeting your thoughts but with better grammar

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

@mejitwo Lit 🤏🏼

[Olúwakẹ́mi🫂 @Kem_Sol_Ash]

🤞 👑

[BIG FISH @adekunleGOLD]

First time ever, me and @Olamide
Formation. April 9.
Presave - https://t.co/WEmP4VOWKC