when people stay in passionless relationships where they no longer experience attraction and choose habituation instead of autonomy i get really scared
The older i get, the more i realize that someone making time for you is one of the clearest signs they care. Everyone is busy. Everyone has responsibilities and their own battles to fight. So when someone consistently chooses to spend their time with you, checks on you, and makes space for you in their life, it means something. time is one thing we can never get back, and people don't give it away lightly.
Ma dernière rupture elle m’as tellement traumatisé que j’ai peur de tomber amoureuse j’ai peur de m’attacher, pour moi les relations amoureuse c’est un peu la mort
My mom once told me:
"Manipulative people don't say sorry. They reframe the story until your reaction looks worse than their behaviour. Suddenly you're explaining yourself while they walk away clean."
And that really hit me hard.
“But you survived” I disassociate, like a lot. My heart drops when someone raises their voice. I shut down very easily. And I'm far too observant. I always feel like a burden. I isolate often. But yeah, sure, I guess I survived.