the fastest way to kill motivation is to make your identity depend on the outcome. it’s called ego involvement. when failing becomes failing as a person, your brain starts avoiding the whole thing. not because you don’t care, but because you care too much.
they didn’t ruin love for me. they ruined trust. the way i second-guess every kind word now. the way i flinch at affection. the way i wait for someone to disappear even when they promise they won’t. that’s the part they don’t see.
es imposible que alguien te vuele la cabeza sin conocerlo lo suficiente. o estás idealizando a la persona (con lo cual tirarías tu relación por ser un boludo), o le diste suficiente cabida y cercanía para que te genere tantas cosas (con lo cual sos un hijo de mil p)
More than 16 years of education but no one taught us, how to console a grieving friend, what to say someone dear, when they are at their lowest. We all just chasing grades/future/a toxic person
No todo dolor es una historia de superación, y no todo trauma tiene una enseñanza escondida. Hay cosas que simplemente no deberían haber pasado, situaciones que no tienen nada de positivo y que no necesitan ser justificadas con frases motivacionales de manual.
My therapist told me “Anger is the part of yourself that loves you the most. It knows when you are being mistreated, neglected, disrespected. It signals that you have to take a step out of a place that doesn't do you justice. It makes you aware that you need to leave a room, a job, a relationship, old patterns that don't work for you anymore. Learn to listen to your anger and make it your best friend. Then it'll leave." And that stuck with me forever.
- safejournal
No marcharon cuando el presidente golpeaba a la mujer. No marcharon cuando Alperovich violaba a su sobrina. No marcharon cuando Espinoza abusaba de su empleada. No marcharon cuando dirigentes de su partido mataron una chica y se la dieron de comer a los chanchos. Pero marchan por un recorte editado de un discurso de Milei.
I wish more people knew listening to your elders isn’t always good advice. Older doesn’t always mean wiser. Many people age, but never grow. Take advice from people who’ve created life on their own terms. Bitterness has not robbed them of wisdom.
It's healthy when people don't like you and don't understand you. That means you're not a people-pleaser, you don't explain yourself to everyone, you live a life others don't understand, you don't overshare and tell people more than they need to know, and you've firm boundaries.