AVOID ENTITLED "DOM"
Being a sub does not mean you're public property
A "Dom" treating your submissive as a loophole around consent is dangerous!
Doesn't matter if you make content, post about fantasies or express your sub side freely
You're to be respected as a sub and human
Taught my nephew about gooning now he constantly beating his dick and sending me the videos asking “am I doing it right unc” mf be locked away nutting here and over - using his own nut to keep stroking his dick with it. Guess I taught’em right 🤗
You usually can’t guarantee it won’t happen at all, because “sub drop” is really the nervous system reacting to intensity, vulnerability, stress chemicals, attachment, adrenaline and emotional exposure.
But you can often reduce how hard or how suddenly it hits.
A lot of people accidentally treat scenes like the goal is “maximum intensity possible” rather than sustainable regulation.
Things that sometimes help:
👉🏻 slowing escalation
👉🏻 more check-ins during intense scenes
👉🏻 eating/hydration beforehand
👉🏻 more grounding and breathing
👉🏻 less emotional overload stacked together
👉🏻 pacing humiliation/exposure carefully
👉🏻 recognising early warning signs instead of pushing through them
👉🏻 allowing pauses without treating them like failure
And honestly, if it’s happening during the scene regularly, I’d be cautious about framing it as “ruining the mood.”
Sometimes the nervous system is effectively saying:
“we’re approaching overload.”
That doesn’t automatically mean the scene is bad or unsafe.
But it does mean the body is part of the conversation whether the mood likes it or not.
@EllisLacyUK Bro I'm from the hood and have a good job if you tried that b******* with me I'd be done with you faster than I quit this post this is crazy. This is a great way to earn the distrust of your customers fans. I would be curious as to how you segregate your audience though
Aftercare makes or breaks trust.
A Dom understands that power without care is selfish.
There is no universal formula for aftercare so make sure you pay attention and listen to the sub needs.
Trust is built in the moments after vulnerability and not just during it.
Tomorrow I will be starting a new, four part story that will be based on a custom made Slave Contract. This contract spans across 5 pages and I though I would give you a little taste of the first page😈
https://t.co/em1iO6feYc
Aftercare IS a necessity. Aftercare IS NOT a privilege. Aftercare IS NOT optional. Aftercare DOES NOT take away from the scene you just had. Aftercare DOES NOT make you any less of a dom/sub.