Do what makes you happy every chance you get so that you can be content with your decisions. Going through life as a people pleaser will never serve you cause trust me, people will never ever be pleased with you.
Normalize paying commission to people who help you get a job or business deals. And people who share valuable information.
This includes family & friends.
People are not helping you because you never return the favour nor thank them financially. Even if you pay in kind.