And a bunch of oloriburuku white people are discussing this because?
This is exactly how they started pushing the narrative that black people don’t feel pain which they used to justify slavery and using black people as literal lab rats and the bloody psychopathic Nigerians, an entire nation of cluster B personalities who have literally morphed into soulless ghouls because of repeated traumatic events are celebrating it like it’s some positive thing.
Such a reckless and stupid thing to be saying about a nation where barely anybody is sane and lots of people are dealing with cptsd. Very soon they will use it as justification for further mistreatment.
No matter how good a woman is, her character, her beauty, her heart—a man can still be tempted to look outside.
It is not a good thing.
And I say this with humility: I repented of it long ago.
Sometimes, all a man really needs to do is calm down and hold his woman tight.
She is your best.
The rest, hmmnnn? Na breeze o.
There was a season when something came over me.
I started noticing other women.
Enjoying their company.
Feeling drawn to the noise.
Meanwhile, my wife,
A nurse.
Quiet.
Focused.
Studying.
Building capacity.
Growing in silence.
Instead of fighting, accusing, or breaking down, she did something extraordinary.
She calmly befriended those same women.
One by one, they became her friends… even her best friends.
I still don’t know how she did it.
One day, I jokingly told her,
“You have taken all my babes”
And we laughed.
But looking back now, I see wisdom.
I see strength.
I see maturity.
I see grace.
My wife has grown, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually.
And I am deeply grateful I did not lose her to my own restlessness.
Men, let us calm down.
What we are looking for “outside” is often growing quietly at home.
Protect it.
Nurture it.
Choose it, again and again. 🙏🏿