From an early age, little Black boys are taught that the world will see them differently.
Long before we understand race, we’re told to be careful because we’re “intimidating.”
Imagine hearing that at five years old. Not because you did something wrong, but because someone fears how your actions might be interpreted. You’re told not to forcefully take back a toy that belongs to you—not because it’s unfair, but because the consequences of being misunderstood could be greater for you.
Then comes puberty, and the conversations change.
“Don’t be alone with those little white girls. Make sure someone always knows where you are.”
Those aren’t lessons rooted in hatred. They’re rooted in generations of fear. Fear that a false accusation could cost you your reputation, your freedom, or even your life before the truth has a chance to speak.
Then you become a man.
You enter a world where you’re often expected to carry everyone else’s burdens. You’re either loved because you’re the one who fixes every problem, or feared because people assume you are one.
When you ask for help, you’re called weak.
When you stay silent, you’re called stubborn.
And then you become a father.
You spend every day trying to raise your little Black boy without passing down your trauma, while also making sure he’s prepared for the realities he may face. You want him to keep his innocence, but you also know innocence alone won’t always protect him.
Sometimes it feels like life is an obstacle course for us while everyone else is running a race. We’re expected to climb walls, swim rivers, and cross burning deserts—carrying not only our own dreams, but also the weight of other people’s fears, assumptions, and prejudices around our necks.
As a Black man, I am tired.
As a Black father, I am scared.
As a human being, I don’t want special treatment.
I simply want the same thing every person deserves: the freedom to exist without being feared, the grace to be fully human, and the comfort of knowing that I, too, am worthy of protection.
Happy Friday!
You drank your water.
You minded your business.
You showed up for yourself and maybe even someone else.
Your light is precious and I’m grateful you’re here with us. I hope your day is full of peace and joy.
Love y’all
Halfway through the week. What have you done to fill your cup up?
Remember that you’re important and deserve grace. Take a breath, drink some water, and recharge. I know you’re fighting a silent battle and I just want you to know you’ve got this. I believe in you.
Happy Wednesday!
Can I testify for a minute?
A year and a half ago, I started writing my first novel. I thought I’d have it finished by Christmas. Then life happened. Christmas became Q1. Q1 became Q2. Somewhere in between responsibilities, exhaustion, grief, self-doubt, and trying to survive everyday life, I started questioning whether I was even worthy of calling myself a writer.
But this morning, I crossed 100,000 words.
One hundred thousand.
And I’m almost finished with the first book in my series.
To some people, that may just sound like a number. To me, it’s proof that purpose survives even when confidence doesn’t. It’s proof that dreams can still breathe in the middle of pain, setbacks, and silence.
This book is for my brother.
For the little Black boy who grew up dreaming of being a cowboy and creating worlds bigger than the one he was handed.
And for every Black creative fighting to be seen, heard, and valued in spaces that weren’t built with us in mind.
If you’re chasing something God placed on your heart, don’t quit just because the road got heavy. Success isn’t waiting on the other side of perfection. It’s waiting on the other side of struggle, fear, doubt, and every moment you almost gave up but didn’t.
Please follow my author page @L_DarwinWrites for updates on my book journey. I love yall!