Ppl do be asking why you not in a relationship like it’s a drivers license or something ..man you know how many things have to align for a relationship to happen lol
Maturing is realizing that the best reassurance you can give your person in a relationship comes through conversation. When you're going through tough times, shutting down or going quiet only makes them feel unsure. But when you choose to talk things through and work it out together, it helps them feel safe, seen, and wanted.
Results may vary, but Black gay men don’t get the constant buffer or support system which many straight men get
As a result, you’re forced to stand on your own two feet and find genuine community because it really can and often is you and you alone who will help you
Having sex isn't everything noh? Have y'all tried just lying down, playing with someone's hands while they talk about life? Those are the moments to live for. Deep talk and understanding someone's background, opening up to someone, and actually falling for them more & more.
If i am being honest, half the things i went through are in fact because of me; my lack of discipline, not listening to my gut feelings, and my poor decision-making.
I was going through the toughest of times and I wrote Mary Oliver’s ‘Wild Geese’ by hand on the walls of my undergraduate room.. each morning, I would wake up and read it like a prayer, reveling over my “place in the family of things ..”