Try this during your next solo session:
- Slow down BEFORE you're desperate to finish
- Keep breathing naturally
- Notice when your stomach, glutes or pelvic floor tighten
- Relax unnecessary tension
The aim is to practise handling arousal, not testing how close you can get
@jheylon15101@Lab_for_Men Willing to bet most guys who bust fast haved learned helplessness with how theyve masturbated over the years - rushed, fast and too quick
You need to reverse that with some prolonged relaxed edging over a period of time. Learn to enjoy that vs just rushing to bust
@SolBrah Dont mistake a weak pelvic floor with an overly tight one. Most guys with premature ejac have the latter! More kegels can make the situation worse
Need to relax, yogaa, reverse kegels ...
One of the worst things about premature ejaculation is the anticipation.
You start worrying about finishing too quickly before sex has even begun.
Then you spend the entire experience monitoring yourself. It's exhausting.
This is a MENTAL game - you can do this bro ...
Non mainstream advice:
A lot of men struggling with premature ejaculation don't need another bedroom trick.
They need to stop treating ejaculation control as something that only matters during sex.
Your health, stress levels, habits and sexual training are your FOUNDATION
Ejaculation is controlled by your nervous system.
Sympathetic activation plays a role in triggering the reflex.
What do you think is gonna happen when you're chronically stressed, tense and highly reactive?
Premature ejaculation could be:
→ GABA signalling, synthesis, reuptake, breakdown, receptor activity, neurosteroid balance and 5AR status.
→ Serotonin signalling, receptor activity, reuptake and breakdown.
→ Glutamate signalling, clearance, glutamine metabolism and receptor activity.
→ Noradrenaline signalling and sympathetic activation.
→ Dopamine and prolactin signalling.
→ Thyroid function, androgen–estrogen balance and tissue hormone activity.
→ Oxytocin, vasopressin and spinal reflex regulation.
→ Histamine release, receptor activity, breakdown and methylation.
→ Erectile dysfunction and rushing to avoid losing an erection.
→ Pelvic-floor tension and poor muscle coordination.
→ Prostate inflammation, pelvic pain and painful ejaculation.
→ Overactive bladder, urinary urgency and related symptoms.
→ Penile sensitivity, lifelong predisposition and ejaculation-reflex sensitivity.
→ Gut problems, oral and gut microbiomes, food triggers and possible inflammatory effects.
→ Poor sleep quality, sleep apnea and poor recovery.
→ Performance anxiety, chronic stress and relationship difficulties.
I cover all of these in the article, with practical ways to improve ejaculation control, from lifestyle changes and pelvic-floor training to supplements and medications.
Link in the first comment.
Most men have never actually had sex.
They've had intercourse.
They've had orgasms.
They've ejaculated.
But very few have ever experienced genuine union between the masculine and feminine.
Next time you're sexually aroused, notice:
• Are you holding your breath?
• Are your abs constantly tensed?
• Are you clenching your pelvic floor?
• Is your arousal rising faster than you can manage?
Awareness of these habits is a useful first step towards better control.
I had severe premature ejaculation for years. And I solved it.
Not by finding some magical breathing trick or supplement.
I completely changed how I approached my health, nervous system, pelvic floor and sexual training.
I wish I'd understood this years earlier.