please believe: the people who love you are not keeping score. their love for you is not based on your ability to show up perfectly. their respect for you is not rooted in the durability of your mask. they love you, for you. join the team.
Don't let your empathy be greater than your self respect. Be kind, but never at the cost of your dignity. You can care deeply for others and still choose yourself, your peace, and your boundaries first.
I'm a big fan of the "GPS Theory" when you miss a turn, your GPS doesn't judge you, it recalculates. No matter how many detours you take, it finds another way forward. Life works like that too. You'll make mistakes, but your destination doesn't vanish. The route just changes.