IF I GET DEMENTIA…..
I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
1a. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi Dad - it’s Amanda.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
• If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
• If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
• If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
• If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
• If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
• If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
• If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
• If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
• If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
• If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
• If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
• If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
• If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
• If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live. With a bus and activities!!
• If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
• If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places.
Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
• If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
• If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
• If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
• If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
• If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”
ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀsᴛᴇ in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.
Should parents be allowed to take their children out of school for up to ten days during term time without facing fines?
MPs will debate the idea in Parliament today after a petition launched by mum Natalie Elliott attracted over 100,000 signatures.
Parents should have the right to take their children out of school during term-time for a limited number of days.
Childhood is short. Parents should not need permission from the state to raise their own children.
My contribution in Parliament today...
Starmers Little Swicharoo didn’t take long… Last week it was stop illegals working. This week it’s to open a bank account, buy a house, avoid 85 quid fines and bring us in to the modern age…. What’s he go planned for it next week??!….
Personally I think it’s dead. No one wants it. NEVER COMPLY
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After learning of the heartbreaking cause of death for Ricky Hatton today I think it’s vitally important that we again come together & keep talking & raising awareness around #mentalhealth
Over 80 men a week in the U.K die by suicide - that’s over 12 a day
It’s the single biggest killer of men in the UK under 50
Plz never tell someone to man up
Lads if you’re struggling remember:
It does NOT make you less of a man
You deserve to be here
You are loved
We care ❤️
Suicide is not selfish. Suicide is, normally, death caused by the illness of depression. It is the final symptom.
A final collapse under unbearable weight. Suicide is a tragedy. If you have never been close to that edge try not to judge what you can't understand 🙏
#MentalHealthMatters #MentalHealthAwareness #talking #support #KindnessMatters
Suicide.
I'm choosing to be deliberately blunt and provocative in this post because it's necessary. Government, charities, football clubs are all pushing water up a hill in highlighting what is undoubtedly a major health crisis.
You take a rope.
You put it up in a garage or a tree nearby or far away.
You're thinking about every loved one you'll leave behind as you put that rope around your neck.
Then you drop.
Some are decapitated.
Some aren't.
All are found by someone who has a lifetime of trauma that will never leave them.
A son.
A daughter.
A brother.
A sister.
A mother.
A father.
I know 2 men who hung themselves.
One was found by his Mom.
One was found by his brother.
Neither have recovered fully. 20 and 30 years on.
A life sentence for people who were already worrying, terrified their loved one may do something.
So just visualise the above and ask, "is there another way"?
A segway for a moment.
I do a few Q&A's every year. Tales of yesterday with a 99% male audience of my age group.
After the stories and fun, my last question back to the audience is..
"Hands up if you struggle with a mental health issue".
Nobody ever puts a hand up. Despite 1 in every 3 of 500 attendees statistically struggling.
"Ah, nobody, that's fucking brilliant! Well I do! ". I then graphically tell people, stunned into silence about how a rope around my neck in the middle of nowhere jolted me to go home and cry like a baby to my Mom.
After the Q&A has finished, something always happens. I'll be chatting to a few guys, saying bye and one by one, men will come over and whisper " I struggle".
Or my mailbox the next day will have 30 emails from guys, their partners or kids saying " Dad/Uncle /Brother was there last night and what you said hit them hard".
And that's how some people realise that it's time to speak to a pal or family member or even rant to me in an email. It works, I often get a follow up email a year or 6 later saying that they took responsibility for their suicidal feelings and are now flying.
Humans are programmed to want to live, to have families and to keep the species growing and thriving. So for a human to want to short circuit that desire isn't normal, and it should never be spoken of as normal. It's the ultimate red flag.
If you suspect your mate, Dad, Brother, Uncle is struggling mentally, they deserve your intervention.
They deserve a " are you OK, please tell me what's up".
They deserve an opportunity to get past wanting to hang a rope over a tree or in a garage and slowly struggle until they die and you find them.
If you've been there and trust me I have plenty, then you'll know that text out of the blue, or a footie mate or one of your kids asking jow you are can open the curtains to some sunshine.
Because when suicide is your only answer, the room is already dark, and you can't see a way out.
So please, fucking pretty please, ask that husband, Dad, Uncle, Cousin, footie pal TODAY how they are.
You may be shocked what comes back but extremely glad that you asked.
For those who struggle, you're not alone.
Prince William talks to Rhian whose husband took his own life after they lost their child.
He asks what she wishes she could’ve said to him?
She replied: “why didn’t you speak to me…we would have been ok”.
Then William is filmed, overcome with emotion.
#WorldMentalHealthDay
All we have to do is say NO to Digital IDs.
I’ve seen so many people on the “left” who don’t want them either ..
It only took 100k NHS workers to bravely say NO, so stop vaccine mandates.
WE the people have the power.. @Togetherdec
Patrick Swayze once said: "They told me my house smelled like dogs, and I asked them: Do you know what a dog smells like? It smells like gratitude, loyalty, nobility, affection, pure and unconditional love. And despite everything they’ve been through, they don’t smell like resentment. So, I feel blessed that my house smells like dogs."
Rest in peace Roscoe. It wasn’t just the world of F1 that was praying for your recovery. Pets are more than just pets, they become our family. Sending so much love to Lewis Hamilton and everyone that knew and loved Roscoe.
#Roscoe
The mainstream media lost today too.
You can’t cancel us any longer.
You can’t lie to us anymore.
We will broadcast the truth directly to you.
Even in the damn rain!
@KTHopkins@TRobinsonNewEra#UniteTheKingdom
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