Unfortunately,
I don't do nonchalant men.
Be clingy. Be dominant. Be touchy:
Watch my location.
Leave me notes.
Plan dates. Bring flowers.
Be obsessed.
A woman working 40+ hrs a week, paying for her own hair, nails, rent, car, food, gas, handling everything by herself, is not going to be the soft, feminine woman you expect her to be. Andno, she can't bring you peace when she's in survival mode.