Sensible
Respectable
Not a bully but gentle
Not quarrelsome
Must have a good reputation among outsiders
Above reproach
The bar for Christian leaders is HIGH, but Scripture also gave us a bit of a cheat code for every single one:
Speak less.
“Let me keep my mind on what matters,
which is my work,
which is mostly standing still
and learning to be astonished.
My work is loving the world.”
- Mary Oliver
"How much larger your life would be if your self could be smaller in it."
---G.K. Chesterton in Orthodoxy (1908), Chapter IX, titled "Authority and the Adventurer."
“The Bible requires us to make one painfully humbling admission —the one confession we work so hard to avoid: that our deepest, most pervasive, and most abiding problem is us! If you can humbly make this admission, your life will never be the same.” - Paul David Tripp
“To escape the distress caused by regret for the past or fear about the future, this is the rule to follow: leave the past to the infinite mercy of God, the future to his good providence: give the present wholly to his love by being faithful to his grace.”
-Jean-Pierre de Causade
With few exceptions:
It doesn't get easier. You won't have more time. Things won't slow down. This isn't just a season. Either you take joy where you are, or you won't.
“From the time you were very little, you’ve had people who have smiled you into smiling, people who have talked you into talking, sung you into singing, loved you into loving. Let’s take some time to think of those extra special people” - Mister Rogers
"Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away... your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two." - David Brooks