There’s a quiet danger in hearing only a single story about a person, a place, or a people. Imagine meeting someone and believing the one thing you heard about them is the full truth.
their struggle, their mistake, their background. Over time,
Society will teach you one thing: life no dey waste experience.
One day you’ll wake up, look at everything you learned while helping others…
and realize you’ve been preparing for your own stage all along.
And this time?
You won’t need someone to hold the ring light for you.
Let me tell you about my friend Alexis
Back then in UNILAG, Alexis had one dream: to become the next big content creator.
In his head, he was already bigger than Davido, just that data was his only enemy.
Who was holding the camera? Me.
Who was shouting, “Bro act natural!”?
apprenticeship for my own destiny.
Sometimes you are not a side character.
You are in training.
So if you’re currently the friend that:
Designs flyers for others
Hypes people up
Helps them rehearse
Supports their business
Relax.
You’re not behind.
You’re building muscle.
“Go talk to her.”
“Reply that message.”
“Confront your boss.”
“Post it, nothing go happen.”
I first check surroundings like security man.
Because friendship has taught me one important life lesson:
If the hype is loud… the disappearance will be louder.
My friend and I were sitting outside one evening, minding our business and rating people passing like football commentators.
Then one guy we know walked past.
The kind of person you’ve been avoiding because small misunderstanding has been pending since last year.
Guy tension too much. I no fit.”
That was the day I understood:
Some friends are not backup…
They are background noise.
They will hype you into boldness…
Then leave you to experience character development alone.
Since then, whenever that friend says:
I was standing in front of a supermarket, pressing my phone like I was closing one billion naira deal.
Suddenly, I heard:
“Excuse me fine girl.”
That “fine girl” entered my ear with full bass.
I turned slowly.
Because how do you approach someone with the boldness of a CEO but the preparation of a group project member that didn’t read the assignment?
Anyway, somewhere in that area, he’s probably telling his guys:
“Guy she was feeling me but she formed hard.”
Meanwhile me?