@Selene_Mariposa We elooed and got married on a hill in Alaska witnessed by the other vacationers staying at our B&B... had flowers and a cake and explored Alaska. It was very inexpensive. Had a family "reception " when we got home.
@KeruboSk Where else can you live for 30% of the mortgage and bills? If the relationship doesn't work out, he saved you huge on the cost of living. Maybe don't contribute to the down payment? Or don't move in together of you're not married.