My favorite line from Atomic Habits has been living in my head rent-free:
“It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.”
Unexpected forms of generosity:
•Being early can be a form of generosity. You wait, so they don't have to.
•Leaving something unsaid can be a form of generosity. You don't always need the last word.
•Delivering your work on time can be a form of generosity. You make life easier for everyone downstream.
•Not taking things personally can be a form of generosity. You give people the space to say things imperfectly."
@JamesClear
The more self-regulated you become, the more you realize that communicating your feelings isn’t an emergency. You can sit with it. Sleep on it. Let the wave pass. You don’t have to rush into expression just because the emotion feels loud.
We are overstimulated and we don't even notice. Netflix while eating. Reels in the bathroom. Music while cooking. Podcasts on walks. We consume by default, not by intention. You keep filling every gap, then wonder why you feel foggy and unmotivated. Boredom and silence are the real growth drivers. They give you space to think and create. That's when solutions show up for problems that have been stuck for months. Leave some room.
The biggest skill you can develop is the ability to reset fast. Bad conversation? Move on. Bad day? Start fresh tomorrow. Missed workout? Hit it the next day. Poor decision? Learn and adjust. You can’t control what happens to you, but you control how long you let it affect you.
Like Nelson Mandela, Raila Odinga will be laid to rest by his Enemies. Let us not feign collective amnesia. Many of the voices now eulogizing him with kind words including myself once mocked him with cruel conviction. We called him kimûndû kîgûrûki, mganga, mtu wa kurusha mawe, a madman, a witch doctor, a threat to order.
The very architects of those narratives now occupy the front pews, offering tributes soaked in irony. In retrospect, their defamations were not born of truth, but of political expediency, fiction weaponized to win an election.
Those who now invoke his name with reverence were once instruments of a machinery that in 2017, orchestrated one of the most elaborate character assassinations in our political history. The residue of that moral failure still clings to us, the ordinary mwananchi who were deceived into contempt of hating Baba, leaving us with shame etched into our collective conscience.
I did not always agree with Raila Odinga’s choices in his twilight years. Yet, with the clarity that only hindsight affords, I recognize that he had earned the right to chart his own path. A man who bore the weight of a nation’s aspirations for over half a century had the moral latitude to choose as he willed.
To have demanded otherwise would be the height of ingratitude. If even a fraction of the affection now being paraded in song and elegy had manifested earlier in votes & in solidarity, perhaps Kenya’s story would read differently today. We are mourning not only a man, but also our own moral inertia.
We weep for the light we once extinguished, the prophet we once ridiculed, the courage we could not summon when it truly mattered. As I watch the nation pour into the streets, wailing and chanting his name, I see a collective catharsis unfolding.
A people seeking redemption through grief, a generation mourning not just a fallen hero, but their complicity in his suffering. To say sorry to Raila now is hollow. The true apology lies in embodying the ideals he lived and bled for.
We bury Raila Amolo Odinga today with our faces down, not merely in mourning, but in Shame. For we have come to understand, perhaps too late, that we misjudged a man who personified our struggle for freedom, dignity, and the moral soul of this republic. Rest In Eternal Peace Baba.