When you start to have all these unpleasant emotions it's like your body/ soul is finally ready to get rid of them. Kind of like how your body gives u an unpleasant fever when you're sick which is painful to endure but ultimately it's what makes you well.
Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.
Your nervous system isn’t a problem to fix.
It’s a loyal witness to everything you've endured.
And it’s ready to learn a new rhythm —
if you’re ready to offer it one.
Things they don't tell you about healing: it's cyclical, not linear. You'll revisit the same wounds with new awareness. You'll think you're done only to discover deeper layers. This isn't failure—it's integration.
the worst outcome for a Golden Child (someone who tries to earn love through good behaviour) is when it sort of works
when neither so successful that the love feels stable, nor such a failure that they abandon the strategy
so they keep trying to earn scraps of love, forever
Your nervous system isn't broken — it's loyal.
It learned to protect you when the world wasn't safe.
Now, it's waiting for you to teach it what safety feels like.
Pope Leo XIV greets the world for the first time to grant his Urbi et Orbi blessing. Cardinal Robert Francis Prevost was elected as the 267th Successor of Peter by the 133 Cardinal electors on Thursday, May 8.
A lie Trauma Brain loves telling us is that we "need" that harsh inner "taskmaster" in order to get anything accomplished and/or hold ourselves "accountable"-- when the truth is, the inner critic actually sabotages & destroys our productivity in hundreds of little & big ways.
Accountability for abusers is a critical step toward justice and healing. Sadly, too many walk away without facing the consequences they deserve.
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