If you lack emotional intelligence we will never work out fr. I’m not teaching you how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat me with respect. These are basic qualities you should already possess before entering a relationship.
how they treat you, is how they feel about you. don’t try to decode it or make excuses. it's simple, if they act like they don’t care, they don’t care, because if they truly liked you, they wouldn't put you in a position where you have to wonder why they act the way they do.
After a certain age, being a bad partner is just embarrassing. Sooo you didn’t do any work on yourself? No introspection, no healing, no growth… just basking in your toxicity huh?
It's a red flag when someone wants you to prove your worth before treating you right. You are always worthy. You don't need to audition to get what you deserve. Anyone who wants you to prove your worth before treating you right isn't worth your attention, time, and energy.
Deep convos are my safe place. My love language is intellectual intimacy. There’s something about peeling back the layers of who we are, tracing the roots of our emotion & mapping out the way our pasts shape our present that feels like home to me.