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Truth is not subjective, but you must subject yourself to it. The hardest thing is to get out of your own way. Getting angry does not make you right. #GBO🍊

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That was the moment… and how. You have to walk a bit in silence first. The path is narrow. Then it opens, and the music drops right as you see the vast expanse of the Bionis’ right thigh. Colony 9 and the surrounding areas of the right calf were already impressive, but Gaur Plains is where you realize just how big the adventure is going to be.

And I still wonder how they did that on the Wii…

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@Loyal_Samwise4 A conveniently timed set of choices. 🤔

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@geekyjenise Life is sacred. Thank you Lord that some people out there realize that life is NOT a choice!

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Modern England is twisted.

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Sherlock Holmes in Modern England

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@CaptainCrunchNZ You’re in for a treat!

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@TheMuppetPastor The truly scary thing is that their hearts are so hardened they don’t even realize that thinking it is no big deal is itself an enormous deal. I don’t trust anyone who thinks like that.

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@CaptainCrunchNZ I was working multiple jobs in that time of my life, so I’m not surprised.

Nice PFP, btw. Getting Master Collection vol 2?

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@TheMuppetPastor For many, realizing and admitting that they’re wrong or misguided is worse than death.

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@alphafox Pass. It’s not branded properly.

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@harpsibored I have questions.

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@CaptainCrunchNZ I guess I wasn’t paying attention when any of that happened.

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@theisabelb Truth either is truth or it isn’t.

To believe or say that truth is relative sounds good until it plays out in reality.

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@timburchett I heard nothing of the sort.

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@tuuu28283 Not anymore

[Lyndsey Fifield @lyndseyfifield]

Anyone who has ever extracted themselves from a relationship with a narcissistic abuser knows it isn’t clean or easy.

I cringe remembering how many times I tried to play the “cool girl” or fawn in response to what was clearly abusive, coercively controlling behavior by Graham.

I also know how dangerous it is to become the target of a narcissist — so even long after our relationship ended I continued to be upbeat any time he reached out, though I would also immediately shut down any attempts on his part to initiate flirting or romanticizing of the past.

Yes, the day I saw him announce he was running I wanted to make sure people knew he had a Nazi tattoo — and I was terrified he would find out it was me.

But of course he knew it was me.

What’s ironic is I absolutely never would have shared my story if he hadn’t been relentlessly attacking my character behind the scenes for months once the tattoo story came out.

I tried to signal that I wasn’t the source and stayed completely silent about him on social media even as most of my friends posted regularly about what a bad person he is.

But then in early April the New York Times came to me. I asked how they got my number. I said I was not interested in sharing my story. They said but wait—there are other women. Women terrified to tell their stories, too, and you need to band together. WE will help you. We will protect you. Men can’t keep getting away with this.

Hours before their first call to me I saw Eric Swalwell’s name plate get removed from his office door in Cannon. It felt like fate.

I welcomed the two journalists into my home days later, nervous and overwhelmed. Justin Fairfax had just murdered his wife and himself the previous day and even conservative pundits were conjecturing that “if only those women hadn’t accused him of abuse, this never would have happened…”

But I told them my story. I let them take pictures of my diary pages. I sent them screenshots of messages and gave them phone numbers and contacts. It was excruciating. I was surprised by what details I remembered, and as I poured through old messages I was horrified by how much I had forgotten.

I explained very clearly that, like many women abused by their partners, I had not told anyone about his violence at the time—I had covered for and defended it. I accepted his earnest apologies. They said that’s fine because the diary entries and my on the record story was enough.

They connected me to two of the other victims so we wouldn’t feel so alone. I insisted to each of them that I trusted the NYT journalists and that we were doing the right thing despite their (sadly very accurate) sense that something was wrong.

One of the victims and I realized our relationships with Graham overlapped completely - he had been cheating on both of us the entire time we were together.

I should note here that my life is just… beautiful. These are the best years of my life. Raising two young girls in a safe, beautiful neighborhood where I work from home and shuffle my children from dance classes and soccer to church events — I am blessed far beyond what I deserve with wonderful friends and family and the most loving, brilliant husband in the world. Why would I blow my life up like this? Why would I risk the psychotic doxxing from violent leftist activists?

Because while I have been terrified to come forward I decided this was the “hard right thing” to do. The guilt of staying silent has nagged me.

Most therapists recommend a “gray rock” approach to extracting yourself from narcissistic abuse — it works really well, but it is a gift to the abuser, allowing them to persist in their delusion that they’ve done nothing wrong.

I couldn’t stay silent as he continued to lie and lie and lie. I want my daughters to boldly speak out if they’re ever abused as I was.

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@neevin Happy Birthday!

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@ValliantRenegad @McJuggerNuggets Amen to that

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@IreneMavrakakis There is forgiveness and repentance in Jesus. Thank you for fighting against these pagan lies that have deceived so many.