Girls…. I understood why they advise us to get married and have kids before 25. Because after that, our brain starts working, and the decision won’t seem so reasonable anymore.
i'm finally coming to peace with the fact that you can't keep tripping over what you can't control, all you can do is stay solid on your end. Everyone gonna do what they want regardless of your feelings. Don't lose your mind tryna figure out where you went wrong.
#ThePolygamist should have been on SABC or Mzansi Magic, it is not reaching the right target for me on Netflix. I want the Jonasis, Joyces, Essies, Matipas and Lindanis across all social classes to see themselves and possibly reflect.
Celebrating South Africa’s downfall in the World Cup won’t help your country get back on its feet. That’s just a defeat away from home, yet you were defeated at home, found refuge in South Africa, and now you’re hating on them? Make it make sense.
The most shocking thing about modern relationships isn't infidelity.
It's the strange contradiction happening inside many homes.
We live in the most sexually open generation in history. People discuss sex publicly. They consume sexual content freely. Intimate photos are shared without much hesitation. Strangers touch bodies in salons, spas, tattoo studios, photoshoots, and countless other settings every day.
Yet behind closed doors, many married couples are experiencing an intimacy drought.
A husband can spend years providing, protecting, paying bills, carrying responsibilities, and remaining faithful, only to find himself constantly negotiating for affection from the one person who promised to share life with him.
And that's where the real conversation begins.
The issue is bigger than sex.
Many people assume intimacy dies because of busy schedules, children, stress, or financial struggles. While those factors matter, they don't explain everything.
The deeper problem is that many couples stop being lovers and become co-managers of problems.
They discuss rent.
They discuss school fees.
They discuss family drama.
They discuss responsibilities.
But they stop discussing desire.
They stop flirting.
They stop dating each other.
They stop creating moments that make intimacy natural instead of transactional.
Over time, one partner begins to feel unwanted while the other feels pressured.
The result is a silent resentment that grows year after year.
What's even more alarming is that society often treats a lack of intimacy in marriage as a minor issue.
Imagine a husband stopped talking to his wife for six months.
Everyone would agree there is a serious problem.
Imagine a wife stopped receiving financial support for six months.
Everyone would agree there is a serious problem.
But when physical affection disappears for months or years, people are often told to simply endure it.
The truth is that intimacy is not a luxury in marriage.
It's one of the languages through which many couples experience love, connection, reassurance, and emotional security.
This is not about entitlement.
Nobody owns another person's body.
But neither should marriage become a place where one partner feels perpetually rejected, unseen, or emotionally starved.
The solution isn't blame.
It's honesty.
Couples need to stop pretending the problem doesn't exist.
They need difficult conversations without accusations.
They need to understand each other's emotional needs.
They need to rebuild friendship, attraction, trust, and emotional safety.
Because in many marriages, the bedroom problem is actually a symptom.
The real disease started long before the bedroom.
The saddest part?
Many marriages don't end in court.
They end emotionally years before anyone files for divorce.
And sometimes the first sign is when two people who once couldn't keep their hands off each other start living like polite roommates under the same roof.
Maybe the question isn't why intimacy is disappearing.
Maybe the real question is:
How many marriages are quietly starving while everyone pretends they're well-fed?
people have their favourites and you might not be one of them. you could have a great relationship with someone, always show up for them, give your best and even go out of your way to make them feel special.. yet still not be the person they cherish most. it stings at first but that’s life. people love differently and their affection is not always tied to effort, loyalty or consistency. sometimes the person they adore isn’t doing half of what you do but that’s not your cue to compete for a place in someone's heart. it’s your cue to rest, remain genuine and understand that being yourself is far more rewarding than being someone’s favourite. stay where your presence is valued, your efforts are appreciated, and your absence is felt.
In a relationship, whenever a man wants to end it, he starts mentally torturing you. He changes his behavior and treats you so badly that you become emotionally and mentally exhausted. Then he goes around crying in front of other people, saying, 'She left me.'
That's how the male psyche works.
They're all the same..