“But you survived.” I disassociate, like a lot. My heart drops when someone raises their voice, i shut down very easily, i'm far too observant, i always feel like a burden, i isolate often.
But yeah, sure, i guess i survived.
Dating/Marriage tip I’ve learned from observation: Find someone who’s so good for your nervous system, that you can allocate your cortisol for other things - such as pursuing career milestones, financial goals, child rearing/ newborn trenches - instead of fighting for the relationship’s survival. That’s all for my very short TED talk.
When a woman is truly inside a man’s frame
When he’s consistent, grounded, unshakable and moving with direction
she feels safe.
And when a woman feels safe, she becomes incredibly loyal.
Not weak loyalty.
Not naïve loyalty.
Deep, invested, ride-or-die loyalty.
Women don’t randomly “switch up.”
They respond to instability.
When a man breaks frame:
•second-guesses himself
•becomes insecure or needy
•loses direction
•makes her the center of his world
•stops moving toward something meaningful
she doesn’t feel safe anymore.
Not emotionally safe.
Not existentially safe.
And here’s the part most men miss:
Women are investors.
They don’t get infinite bets.
They don’t get unlimited time.
Their biology forces selectivity.
So yes, women can be ruthless.
Not because they’re disloyal,
but because they can’t afford to back a sinking ship.
When the mission is clear, when the direction is real and when the man holds frame women stay.
They invest harder. They become loyal in a way that shocks men who’ve never experienced it.
When the frame collapses, they exit.
That’s not betrayal.
That’s risk management.
So when men say, “Women aren’t loyal,” what they’re really saying is:
“I couldn’t hold the frame.”
Women don’t destroy ships.
They leave ships that stopped going somewhere.
And the men who understand this
never complain about women again.
Everyone’s busy shitting on women right now. It’s lazy. And it’s wrong.
What people are really mad about isn’t women, it’s loss of entitlement.
In the past:
•Average men had leverage by default
•Women had fewer options
•Settling was normalized
Today:
•Women can choose
•Women can leave
•Women don’t need a man just to survive
So the bar went up.
That doesn’t make women worse. It just raised the standard. You can complain or improve.
Good women still want:
•Masculinity
•Competence
•Presence
•Attraction
•Emotional safety
And here’s the part no one wants to admit: When you actually have your life together, women today are incredible.
something i've noticed is that when men put down women for having jobs, it's only for having jobs they perceive as high status. i've never seen them insult a woman as a "girl boss" for being a NICU nurse. but they do if she works a corporate job, or is a doctor.
Ladies, it is extremely important you do not date or marry a man dumber than you.
If your husband has a lower IQ, you won't accept his leadership because you'd assume you could do it better than him. And you'd be right.
this is super-false, lol. Men will waste your time for eternity while not being happy, ESPECIALLY if you are useful.
Men leave WHEN THEY HAVE SOMEWHERE TO GO. Whether it be a real woman, the hint of a woman, a job or the urging of friends.
Just find you somewhere better to be.
My advice to all GCs
Stay Selfish, Stay Hungry
Sacrificing for a non existent "Hindu Unity" has got us nothing, except ridicule, decreasing educational opportunities.
Had it not been for IT/Service sector, our fate would have been even worse. For all it's issues it gave us a decent life. Else we would just be applying endlessly for Govt Jobs.
Vote for whichever party you feel suits you, else NOTA.
It doesn't matter who is in power, your lives are not gonna change much.
Grind, hustle equip yourself with skills. And learn to survive.
The State has literally thrown you into the deep sea, leaving you on your own. So do learn to swim and survive.
And to those GCs who support the "Hisaab Chukta" policies for whatever reason, someday you are gonna have to answer your kids or the upcoming generations.
The entire political discourse can be changed with just one step.
General Category needs to draw a clear line against Ambedkarism.
Reject it outright.
The moment you do that, you will take the power back.
The power to make or break any political party.
This guy is textbook toxic Indian. Has degrees from Zurich and London Business School and has traveled the world. But still thinks of women as commodities or pets.
He can't understand or know love. Every relationship in his life is a balance sheet transaction.
Eww. And sad.
आज का दिन भी बीत गया, पूरे दि�� जो चर्चा चली उससे मुझे जर्मनी के मार्टिन नीमोल्लर की एक कविता याद आई।
"First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me"
नीमोल्लर नाजी जर्मनी के खिलाफ आवाज न उठाने वालो के बारे में बात करते हुए लिखते हैं कि जो समय रहते नहीं बोलते, समय आने पर उनका भी कोई नहीं बचता।
भारत में ��वर्ण भी अब वैसी ही स्थिति में हैं जैसे जर्मनी में Jews थे। हिटलर कहता था कि jews बहुत अमीर हैं, लेकिन वो इस देश के गरीबों की फिक्र नही करते और इसी तरह वहां की जनता को यह विश्वास दिलाया गया था कि उनकी सारी समस्याओं की वजह Jews ही हैं और उन���हें jews से नफरत करनी चाहिए। यही वजह थी कि लोग Jews को मरते हुए देख रहे थे और उन्हें लाखों लोगों की लाशे जलाना बस एक आम बात लग रही थी, वह उनके लिए एक सामान्य बात थी।
भारत में भी पिछले कई वर्षों से यही बताया जा रहा है कि आपकी सारी परेशानियों की जड़ सवर्ण हैं। आपके घुटनों में दर्द है, आपके घर गैस खत्म हो गया, आपको सर्दी लग गई, बारिश की वजह से आपकी फसल बर्बाद हो गई, या आपके साथ कुछ भी बुरा हुआ है तो उसका कारण सवर्ण ही हैं।
पहले दलितों को यह भरोसा दिलाया गया, अब OBCs को यही बताया जा रहा है, मुसलमानों को तो यह पहले से ही था। इनके मस्तिष्क में भरा जा रहा है कि आपके सबसे बड़े दुश्मन सवर्ण हैं और अगर आप इन्हें खत्म कर दें तो आपकी सारी परेशानियों का अंत हो जाएगा।
ठीक है! कर दीजिए हमारा अंत लेकिन उसके बाद क्या? प्रकृति कभी रुकती नहीं है, आज हम कमजोर हैं आप बहुजन हैं, आप चाहे तो हमें समाप्त कर दें। लेकिन हमारी समाप्ति के बाद कोई और बहुजन बनेगा, और आप में से ही कोई उस स्थिति में आएगा जैसे आज हम हैं। फिर से यही सब दोहराया जाएगा और कल आप भी इसी स्थिति में होंगे।
आज सवर्णों की संख्या कम है कल किसी और जाति की कम होगी और ऐसे ही एक दिन आपका भी नंबर आएगा। उस समय आप भी सोच रहे होंगे कि का��� ये सब शुरू ही न हुआ होता लेकिन शायद तब तक बहुत देर हो चुकी होगी।
No matter how draconian your rules, keep one truth of life in mind with every unearned breath you draw:
You were born in inferiority.
You are living in inferiority.
You will die in inferiority.
Because there’s one oppression you can never wish away, the oppression of your own inadequacy.
You can have all the power in the world. You’ll become civil servants. You’ll get to write laws. You’ll even become presidents and prime ministers. But you’ll never stop being haunted by your own inferiority complex.
It’s actually quite pathetic if you think about it. Always envious of The Other. Even after having it all and more. Know why?
Because deep down you know all too well that you didn’t earn any of it. It was all alms. Deep down you know you can’t achieve squat on your own. Your conscience taunts you for being the parasite that you are.
Envy is a bitch.
That’s your whole truth.
Sucks to be you.
Consciousness is not born, nor does it die
it is the silent witness behind thought and breath.
The Upanishads call it Ātman
by the Upanishads (Chāndogya, Aitareya, Māṇḍūkya)