Once you realize that anything can happen; sickness, death, lose your job... Literally, anything in the blink of an eye, you become very humble. Tables turn and that's how crazy life can get.
Always stay humble, and be grateful.
90 days. That's all. Less than one season to undo 10 years of wrong moves. Cut the noise. Say yes to hard things and no to easy distractions. Most people won't believe it until they see it in the mirror.
There is something women do that I find funny.
When I am quiet or stare into nothingness, you ask what is on my mind. Madam, there is nothing on my mind.
I'm a quiet person and I easily drift into quietness. Do women understand it is okay to just want to be quiet in your own space? Everything is not an opportunity to gist for gist sake.
They never like my answer. They want gist. There is no gist and there is nothing only mind. Frankly, I actually do not like that question
Winston Churchill fought his depression with bricks. He'd lay them for hours at his country home in Kent. He joined the bricklayers' union. And in 1921 he wrote about why it worked. It took psychology another 75 years to catch up.
He called his depression the "Black Dog." It followed him for decades. His method for fighting it back was as basic as it sounds: laying brick after brick, hour after hour.
Churchill spelled out his theory in a long essay for The Strand Magazine. People who think for a living, he wrote, can't fix a tired brain just by resting it. They have to use a different part of themselves. The part that moves the eyes and the hands. Woodworking, chemistry, bookbinding, bricklaying, painting. Anything that drags the body into a problem the mind can't solve by itself.
Modern psychology now calls this behavioral activation. It's one of the most-studied depression treatments out there. Depression sets a behavior trap. You feel bad, so you stop doing things, and doing less means less to feel good about. Feeling worse makes you do even less. The loop tightens until you can't breathe inside it.
Behavioral activation breaks the loop from the action side. You schedule the activity first, even when every part of you doesn't want to. Doing it produces small rewards: a wall gets straighter, a painting fills in, a messy room gets clean. Those small rewards slowly rewire the brain. Action comes first, and the feeling follows.
Researchers at the University of Washington put this to the test in 2006. They studied 241 adults with major depression and compared three treatments: behavioral activation, regular talk therapy, and antidepressants. For the people who were most severely depressed, behavioral activation matched the drugs. It beat the talk therapy. A 2014 review of more than 1,500 patients across 26 trials backed up the result.
Physical work like bricklaying does something extra on top of this. It crowds out rumination, the looping bad thoughts that grind people down during the worst stretches of depression. Bricklaying needs both hands and gives feedback brick by brick: each one is straight or crooked. After an hour you can see exactly how much wall you built. No room left for the mental chewing.
The line George Mack used in his post, "depression hates a moving target," is good poetry. The science behind it is sharper. Depression hates a brain that has somewhere else to be.
Firstly, as a man, you cannot put an end to lust but you can tame it to the highest levels.
Understanding what lust is and what causes it is a key first step. Many times, lust shows up when a man is idle, unfocused, or feeling lonely. When lust perceives that a man is in a state of nothingness or close to that, it gladly fills the void.
In taming it, a man has to learn to guard what he consumes. He has to be intentional about what he repeatedly watches, scrolls past or entertains. As the saying goes, the mind follows the eyes, and the eyes follow the habit.
But restraint is just a starting point. A man has to commit himself to work that keeps him busy, active and focused. Lust thrives in emptiness so a life with structure renders lust lifeless.
For me, keeping busy with deep and meaningful work helps all the time.
Be grateful for all the girls you didn’t date, roads you didn’t take, ventures failed, locked doors, times rejected, & unexpected detours. Little did you know, the no’s were part of the plan; neccesary to reach where you are going - a place far much greater than anything you previously fathomed, much grander than you were hoping
Just think for a second, who knows better: you or God?
Ok. Accept what is as it is. Surrender to His plans, will, & word. And do better moving forward. He will make your crooked paths straight & illuminate the way, allotting the necessary graces in proportion to your faith & willingness to take on battles for His sake
Your problem is you rely too much on yourself - your own strength, intellect, shortsighted wisdom, & selfish desires to lead the way
He works differently, in ways we don't understand unless He allows to see, and even then, He only grants sufficient understanding for us to complete the task at hand to further His cause & divine mission
Much better His soldier or maid than try to run wild as king. I really don't believe one's spiritual journey begins until they make themselves 1) like a child of God in spirit as Christ teaches & 2) as His pawn
@nikita_helene @frankodongkara How do you withdraw it when you leave the country? Are there requirements e.g you should have lived out of Uganda for a certain time etc
“Throughout my career, each transition has been a strategic step, chosen not just for the role itself, but for the unique opportunities and challenges it presented for personal and professional growth.
Every industry has 1 book that will teach you 90% of what you need to know about it.
Here are the 25 best books in 25 different industries:
(ranging from animation to web3)
What annoys me the most about the state of Africa is that the solutions to our most fundamental problems:
- power
- transportation (esp. railway for trade)
- basic healthcare
- education
- etc.
… were solved by other civilizations/races over centuries ago. We do not need…