Aaron Anderson, M.S.

Marriage Counselor and Relationship Expert. Owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic and The Relationship Rx. Builder of Hot Rods and Hot Marriages.

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Feeling like your relationship is stuck in a rut? If you want to see something different in your relationship, think of how it can change – starting with you! Plan a date, surprise them with a kiss, send them a love letter… Do something out of the ordinary!

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What your spouse needs to hear you say #2! NOTHING outside of yourself is going to bring you true fulfillment, so if you are feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied in your marriage, it is time to start working on yourself.

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Trying to control your partner will only lead you down a path of frustration. Realizing you can't control them will save you time and energy. Instead of trying to control your partner work on controlling your thoughts. It takes practice, but you can learn to take them captive.

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One of the best ways to boost your mental health is exercise. In celebration of #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek and #MarriageTipTuesday, get active! You can hike, bike, run, walk, go to the gym, take your kids scooter for a ride, swim, dance, anything to get you moving!

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Words express how you really feel, which sometimes your spouse isn't confident in knowing through just actions. "I'm here for you" is a simple phase that lets your spouse know that you will listen to them, help them, care for them, cry with them or hold them while they cry.

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As much as you would love it, your spouse can't read your mind.
The best way to prevent miscommunication and unmet expectations is to check in regularly with each other.

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When you say words that validate your partner’s thoughts, feelings and experiences it works like “love glue. Everyone wants to be heard, seen and validated. When you acknowledging when you partner is right, this helps them feel you are understanding them. #MarriageTipTuesday

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By saying no, you’re creating a boundary. And boundaries are essential for any healthy relationship. Saying no is a way of nurturing and empowering yourself. And it encourages your partner to do the same. Saying no is a good thing for you, your partner and your relationship.

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At any given moment there are things about your relationship that you love, and things that you don't love. This is true for every relationship, no matter how great they seem on the outside. What would happen if you focus more on the positive?

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Today is one of our favorite days of the year! #kissandmakeupday
If you are having an argument with your partner, today is a great time to try and mend things. Talk it through, commit to listen to each other and don't forget to kiss and make-up.

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A marriage requires effort, time, talking and connecting to maintain it. Make sure that you are putting in the work to keep your relationship functioning properly.

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Marriage is a wonderful thing and gives us someone with whom we can share our lives. But it is really important that in a relationship you remain true to yourself.

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Communication is KEY to any healthy relationship, especially one that you experience daily like your marriage. If communication is easier through a text, email or a good old fashion letter then go that route to keep the communication flowing.

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Most things in life, if we don't nurture they won't thrive and sometimes won't even survive. This is no different than our marriage. You and your partner connect in many different ways. Are you nurturing the ones that are important to BOTH of you?

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Colorado has been HOT the last couple weeks, sometimes just too hot for clothes 😜

Today celebrate #NationalNudeDay along with #MarriageTipTuesday with your spouse and do something together naked.

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This is a great benefit of a loving relationship! Even though our happiness is ultimately up to us, feeling supported by your partner can make difficult times easier. If the world seems to be against you and your partner is on your side, it can make all the difference.

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Being in tune with your own needs and making sure they are met is a big stepping stone for martial success. When you are tuned into your own needs you are emotionally connected with yourself, which helps in being emotionally connected with your partner. #MarriagTipTuesday

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When you want anything to change or move forward in life, the best thing to do is set goals. When you are stuck in your relationship and not sure how to make it better or how to create more intimacy and connection, start making goals.

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You have spent more time with your significant other in the last couple months than normal, but quantity never trumps quality! Accidental time together is just there by merit of sharing a life with your partner. LOVE on Purpose.

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When life isn't going as planned (vacations cancelled, working from home, graduations and parties postponed, etc.) it can be hard to practice gratitude. This week, look at your mess and find things to be grateful for.